Part 2 of this article will deal with narcissist. Part 3 will deal with Machiavelli manipulators. Part 4 will deal with dark tetrad and dark triad personality.
The reason I don’t deal with a lot of PUAs was there are a lot of dark triad sociopaths in the community. In the past I had a big social circle of friends. More guy friends though, not a lot of girls were in the social circle. I’m not a big fan of it. Now that i’m a lot older, my social circle has dwindled. Of course I know the social skills of how to have friends and influence people. As a daygamer, I decided I don’t care for social circles. Besides with sociopaths, they just know how to wear a mask. I call this the mask of sanity. Once you give someone advice or call them out, they get mentally unstable and vengeful. They hate you for it. I’m releasing this information now because I’ve studied it for years. I don’t associate much with other PUAS for this reason. If anyone has these traits, I can spot them a mile away. A lot of dating coaches have these traits. I’m using my platform to educate people about it. I think it is important and can explain the personalities you see in the PUA world.
No contact means no contact. No phone calls, no text messages, no e-mails. As long as you continue to engage the sociopath they will continue to try and manipulate you. They have nothing better to do in their lives. In fact, often they will spend their lives trying to continue to manipulate you!
Sociopaths don’t have friends. They perceive others as victims or competitors, and the competitors typically end up as victims too, because the sociopath wants to win at all costs.
Any contact is a sign for them that they still have a chance to continue to manipulate you. It’s absolutely useless to want to have the last word or to need to explain how upset you have been. You’re just giving them a chance to continue to play with your emotions, and the lack of empathy and guilt gives the sociopath an advantage that you will never have, and that you can never beat.
No ultimatums or power plays either. You are going to lose. Don’t waste your energy.
Of course, sometimes it’s simply not possible to cease all contact straightaway. Children, business contracts, marriages may need to be sorted out first. But as soon as you realize you’re dealing with a sociopath, you need to take steps to protect yourself.
Get copies of important paperwork and computer files. Store them in a friend’s house. If you do need to communicate use e-mail and keep all copies. Let their phone calls go to voice mail and save them. If you fear for your physical safety, take whatever steps are necessary. Get professional help if you need to.
Let other people know what’s happening, including your boss. Very often when you try and break off contact, a sociopath will try to begin to manipulate the people around you. Get them on your side first, before he tries to make you look bad and/or crazy. You are going to need support!
Do not give them more information about you
Any information you give them can and will be used against you. This is important because you are dealing with a sociopath. This means you are dealing with a professional manipulator and you should expect that any personal information you give will be used to manipulate your emotions, blame you for what is happening and/or used to try to continue the relationship.
If you need to communicate, keep it short, stick to the facts (no opinions or personal thoughts) and communicate as if you know your communication is going to be read out in court.
Know your weaknesses
Because the sociopath certainly does! And has been taking full advantage of them. At least if you understand what you’re weaknesses are it gives you a better chance of dealing with a sociopath because you will recognize when he is pressing your buttons.
And why you’re at it, check out your strengths too. Chances are the sociopath has been manipulating you by using them as well! For example, if you are good at helping people, he will want to be helped.
Pay attention to your instincts
What are your instincts telling you? It’s difficult when dealing with a sociopath because due to the manipulation you have been overriding your instincts. What, for example, was your initial feeling on first meeting the sociopath? Did you give them the benefit of the doubt at the start for whatever reason? This is something you can never afford to do when dealing with a sociopath
Do not try to reform them or give them more chances…
There is no treatment for sociopathy/psychopathy. Often it makes them worse! They simply learn more about people’s behavior in therapy sessions and it gives them more ammunition for later.
Somebody who has no conscience has no conscience. They’re not going to change. In fact, because of their big egos, arrogance and sense of entitlement, they think they are better than everybody else and see absolutely no reason to change.
And besides, doing this means that you are maintaining contact. See rule 3.
The reason you see these 10 traits are, these guys have no empathy or guilt. Deluded as hell. This is why you see this kind of behavior.
#1) Sociopaths are charming. Sociopaths have high charisma and tend to attract a following just because people want to be around them. They have a “glow” about them that attracts people who typically seek guidance or direction. They often appear to be sexy or have a strong sexual attraction. Not all sexy people are sociopaths, obviously, but watch out for over-the-top sexual appetites and weird fetishes.
#2) Sociopaths are more spontaneous and intense than other people. They tend to do bizarre, sometimes erratic things that most regular people wouldn’t do. They are unbound by normal social contracts. Their behavior often seems irrational or extremely risky.
#3) Sociopaths are incapable of feeling shame, guilt or remorse. Their brains simply lack the circuitry to process such emotions. This allows them to betray people, threaten people or harm people without giving it a second thought. They pursue any action that serves their own self interest even if it seriously harms others. This is why you will find many very “successful” sociopaths in high levels of government, in any nation.
#4) Sociopaths invent outrageous lies about their experiences. They wildly exaggerate things to the point of absurdity, but when they describe it to you in a storytelling format, for some reason it sounds believable at the time.
#5) Sociopaths seek to dominate others and “win” at all costs. They hate to lose any argument or fight and will viciously defend their web of lies, even to the point of logical absurdity.
#6) Sociopaths tend to be highly intelligent, but they use their brainpower to deceive others rather than empower them. Their high IQs often makes them dangerous. This is why many of the best-known serial killers who successfully evaded law enforcement were sociopaths.
#7) Sociopaths are incapable of love and are entirely self-serving. They may feign love or compassion in order to get what they want, but they don’t actually FEEL love in the way that you or I do.
#8) Sociopaths speak poetically. They are master wordsmiths, able to deliver a running “stream of consciousness” monologue that is both intriguing and hypnotic. They are expert storytellers and even poets. As a great example of this in action, watch this interview of Charles Manson on YouTube.
#9) Sociopaths never apologize. They are never wrong. They never feel guilt. They can never apologize. Even if shown proof that they were wrong, they will refuse to apologize and instead go on the attack.
#10) Sociopaths are delusional and literally believe that what they say becomes truth merely because they say it! Charles Manson, the sociopathic murderer, is famous for saying, “I’ve never killed anyone! I don’t need to kill anyone! I THINK it! I have it HERE! (Pointing to his temple.) I don’t need to live in this physical realm…”
My take on it are, these people doesn’t empathy. I have the ability to empathize and to feel guilt. It is a normal human trait.
The front of the brain doesn’t light up and some of the top. It has a star like design on top. This keeps the person from feeling empathy. The frontal lobes are severely damaged. You can easily tell who is a sociopath in the PUA industry. Look at their eyes. If they have crooked eyes, pointing in two direction, that is dark tetrad, which includes sadism. If they have Charles Manson intense eyes, that is more of a sociopath. Sometimes people might wear sun glasses to hide it. If they have cold dead eyes, its a psychopath. If they have an eye slightly off center, its from frontal lobe damage. I already know who is going to turn on me and who isn’t based on these traits. Sometimes its genetic. But the gene is expressed when they have a shitty childhood or growing up.
The dark tetrad or the trolls loves to have alt accounts. They use it to deceive. Its pretty simple, you first start with an interview phase where they try to find your weaknesses. That is what a sociopath does, a person who attacks your weaknesses. They pretend to be your friend. Then they turn on you. They call this gaslighting. But I decided to cut all ties to PUAs in general. Even if you cut them off at the interview phase, they will still act crazy. They love blaming you. I’ve seen it all before.
They like to act as the judge of what is true or not. So when you try to explain evidence or your views. They disagree with facts. Their facts are always based on delusions. So you keep trying to convince them. They think you care and need their validation. Then they get more angry and they become a hater if you tell them what to think if they are sociopaths. They troll you. You can’t win, you just create more problems and haters. It is the main reason I decided to post less in the Wayne Dating Lifestyle forum group even if I moderate it. Once they are deluded with a shitty trollish behavior, they always have it later on. You put them on notice. They always think they are good at trolling and getting a reaction. But in reality they are just dark tetrad sadistic sociopaths.
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or members of a group, hoping to make targets question their own memory, perception, and sanity. Using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying, it attempts to destabilize the target and delegitimize the target’s belief.
Instances may range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred up to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim. They get off on this stuff.
Honestly, they assume you believe everything they say is the truth. But they can gaslight you that way and feed you false information. Don’t believe anything they say is true. Not a fucking word. I just pretend I do, I don’t. Unless its proven beyond a shadow of a doubt.
Stonewalling is when someone shuts you down from communicating. He just “bails” on your efforts at communication, refuses to take you seriously; refuses to engage a discussion of your concerns. He may ignore or dismiss you, express fatigue with you (and your concerns); he may listen without offering a thoughtful, respectful response, and then credit himself for having listened.
In any case, his unthoughtful, lazy, dismissive, or flat-out non-response to your feelings and concerns captures the essence of stonewalling and will reflect his pure contempt for which he’ll take no responsibility.
Rather, he may depict you as a boring windbag who doesn’t know when to “stop talking,” or who’s always making or looking for “trouble,” without recognizing or owning how his insistent refusal to listen, his determination NOT to listen, actually provokes, passive-aggressively, your very instinct to “talk” and “pursue him” until he gives a meaningful response. If you do persist, he may complain to others that he is being “harassed” for no reason, pointing out that he is doing “nothing” to you.
Stonewalling, then, is a form of “gaslighting” insofar as it can leave the stonewalled party feeling as if she’s speaking a foreign language inaccessible to the stonewaller even though she knows perfectly well the stonewaller speaks the language, literally, but either refuses to speak it or “acts” like he doesn’t.
This can have a “crazy-making” effect, as if he’s accusing her (as he may very well do) of speaking incomprehensibly.
Stonewallers, whether sociopaths or not, are seriously disturbed communicators. Their indifference to the stonewalled party’s experience, as noted, can be chilling. Their stonewalling often reflects character pathology, in which case they won’t change—they will always be stonewallers.
Point of the story was, some stonewallers are sociopaths. Jan Lifestyle loves to stonewall people. Most PUAs I talked to has this weird vibe from him. When you lack any empathy to care, scamming it easy. Its something to notice in real life. An empathetic person won’t stonewall you.
They always threaten you and stuff. Its predictable. Read about it here.
1% of the population are psychopaths. 4% are sociopaths. 1 in 10 in wallstreet, 1 in 30 for CEOs. 1 in 25 around you. Odds are you work with someone like that. But their weakness is their predictability. Like a tumor, they operate exactly the same way. They might be manipulative and good in that area. But their behavior is super predictable. They don’t like exposure. But I have decided against associating with local PUAS due to this very reason. In reality, most PUAs who has these traits gravitates towards PUA.
When you are armed with this information. You will know who is a sociopath and who isn’t in this industry. They think by pressing your buttons, you give a shit. Tbh, I really don’t. I’ll just say yeah, whatever. This blog will always be the source of honest material without any spin. No, I don’t need your validation or care. My marketing solely relies on truth based and results based marketing. It always will be. If I insult RSD and people gets mad, well. Remember where the anger comes from. Personally I don’t get bent out of shape when someone else insults a different company. I just see if there is any merit. I don’t project my ideals on the world and say this is what I think. My opinions as facts. I see the world for what it is, ugly, sometimes negative. But I can adapt better that way. Its a more balanced point of view. A lot of sociopaths are deluded and i’m not interested in their opinions as facts or validating myself to them. Most are deluded, you can’t win anyways, so why bother? Just agree with them and move on. Usually I block people in the Wayne Dating Lifestyle group when I deal with trolls. Odds are, I dealt with some real crazy fucks before. Nothing surprises me. Its like a chess game, that you already know what moves they make. So they lose their power over you. The most important advice is to have a lot of self esteem and not care what others thinks. Unless you care wearing a mask. I don’t. I’m brutally honest, I say what I think. I’ve got plenty of testimonials and content. But I like to talk about this topic. Its important to me. Stay tuned for the next article on narcissism. If you learned nothing I say, get emotional. Just learn one rule, cease contact. That’s the most important one, or don’t feed the troll. The win at all cost part is what makes sociopaths so dangerous. But its predictable. They are vengeful and mentally unstable. Hard to let things go.
A lot of hardcases has comorbidity. Its a mixed mental illness, including dark triad, depression and anxiety. Socipathy or opinions as facts is the reason why hardcases or impossible cases are deluded and can’t learn game. Its why they resist everything and doesn’t learn. You are fighting their deluded opinion. I have no opinions, its all based on field testing and results.
For the black guy who wants to learn our system using alts. Our game isn’t for sale. You learned from another Wayne first and Mystery Method stuff. But you start talking shit about me and Deepak until we kicked you from our group. Now you are nice. We are suppose to teach another coaches now? You hated on me, now you are sucking up calling me the best? I know you are reading my blog. You made a fucking alt account to ask for coaching? I gave you a link to my testimonials and now your specific country, and I mean very specific shows up in my SEO in Europe. I have no care or energy to deal with this shit. Deepak and I don’t want to teach you our game. You insulted him, how you suck up to me? Sorry our game isn’t for sale to you. You are so predictable. I see everything. Nothing gets by me.
Regardless, this is one of the most accurate articles I ever read. Whether you agree with the source or not. The whole article about cults accurately shows how the PUA industry work. In the future I would detail how cults works and how you can protect yourself from mind control in the PUA industry. While I might consider using cult like tactics in the future. But only to get more people to learn and get results. I’ll use it in an ethical way. I mean truth based marketing or results based marketing isn’t popular with the sheeps. I’ll always protect my fellow Asians from getting scammed or have their future taken away from them. If another Asian guru said 51% of Asian women marries white guys and 1/5 Asian guys won’t get married. If that is true, then you guys have someone to protect you in this industry. But I’ not protecting those who acts sociopathic as hell. I avoid some Asian PUAs locally like the plague. Hurt these Asian guys the good guys, i’ll step on you. http://www.naturalnews.com/036112_sociopaths_cults_influence.html
Do I have these traits? Nope. I’m pretty accurate and not deluded. Whoever is more accurate will have more student results being objective. Whoever is delusional will not have student testimonials because their opinions are facts. Its not transferable. While I do talk about peoples weaknesses. I actually do field test their game. Its not from a place of opinions as facts. But a place of science or field testing. This is why some coaches can’t transfer their game to many others. Its also why they scam. They have no empathy whatsoever. Just think about it. Next time a sociopath blames you and stuff, just ignore them. Would a celebrity engage with a hater? No, it just gets more hate. Remember, hating and educating is two different things. I’m an educator. I hope you learned a lot today. I hope you know why a lot of PUAS acts creepy and uncalibrated. Some just knows how to wear a mask well. I’m never going to wear a mask.
Don’t forget, females can be sociopaths too. I’m sure we all dated some crazy two faced bitches. There are more male sociopaths than females. But remember, the pattern doesn’t change. They can’t operate out of this pattern. Its created because of a lack of empathy and guilt. This is the cause and effect.
One guy thinks this is about him. Not its all of you guys in the PUA industry, dating coaches, RSD, PUAS in Vancouver. The industry is build on dark triad. In the next post I will talk about narcissism and my own narcissism. I have a bit of that. After dark triad, dark tetrad, i’m going to talk about cults. After cults, i’ll talk about why dating coaches really wants to join the industry. Its all related to dark triad personality.
-John (not surprised anymore) Wayne