(recut video) Before Tinder or Night Game, Asian Men Need These 3 Daygame Lays Minium

100 views I will write a new script for Youtube Live or a new video or some sorts.

An unteachable case can still get one lay or one girlfriend.

That’s ugly a few years ago.

Two times is a coincidence.

Three times is not luck.

Three times is a pattern, and I’m just saying a minimum of three.

That’s the most important thing to me right now…

If you can get three lays, it’s not luck. It’s a repeatable skill that can eventually lead to a girlfriend, a marriage, and a family.

That’s right.

I mean, it’s around $7,000 a year, I calculated, for nightgame.

It’s not cheap.

You take that entire $7,000 you would’ve spent in a year, but you go to Latin America.

You go to Brazil, you go to Peru, you go to Mexico, you go to wherever.

You go to a third-world country, and then just to swipe on Tinder, they make you dress a little bit better for your Instagram, and then they collect $7,000 from you.

Can you do the math for me, ChatGPT?

What is $7,000 times 13?

How much, like… $7,000 and 13 students, right?

This ABCs of Attraction Latin World Tour.

How much money did they make from that one world tour?

They’re making so much money off the Asians…

They need to switch over to going to Latin America and nightgame because they don’t believe they can do it for daygame.

That’s $91,000 already.

That’s nearly $100,000.

They’re probably making a quarter of a million dollars this year because when you listen to ABCs of Attraction, which is poison…

Whenever you hear these things, it really affects your state of mind.

It makes you feel bad about yourself.

Game Global is a network that uses the marketing technique called Problem, Agitate, Solve.

You’re like, “What do you mean?”

They’ll tell you what the problem is…

That you being Indian is not enough.

You being Asian is not enough.

And then they’ll agitate.

They’ll twist the knife and make you feel bad about yourself.

They will fucking twist the fucking knife and just twist, twist, twist, twist, twist, twist.

All right.

But Problem, Agitate, Solve.

I want to teach you guys a marketing formula that I don’t use.

Have you seen me try and twist the knife and create massive pain?

No.

I just tell you logically.

I know that is the least effective way, but this is how I’m brainwashing you by calmly explaining to you why.

And your subconscious brain understands what I’m saying.

And then what happens is that ABCs defines a brand-new problem, and then they agitate the hell out of you because they go over to Reddit, they write down every single pain point.

They copy and paste it onto a big document, and they read the words directly out to you.

And they twist the fucking knife as hard as they can.

He never got laid for nightgame from ABCs.

He never got laid.

He actually had zero results until he took Elite 30, and then he was able to get laid for nightgame.

So what are they teaching people?

Problem, Agitate, Solve is the reason why they got you.

It is such a good formula.

This is sometimes when you run ads, right?

If you can make the person feel bad, then they’re going to say, “Well, if this is what makes me feel bad, then what is the solution?”

I’m just telling you guys the truth.

Like, the whole fucking truth.

I put raw meat out here, and it’s really uncomfortable…

And people have to face themselves in the mirror.

That’s why they like it.

Because John Elite is willing to lose money to tell you guys the truth because I think I can wake you guys up.

UMP no longer gets people laid.

UMP has now transitioned to a nightgame company.

But as I was trying to say, you can get easily manipulated by pain points from the Asian Masculinity movement.

Bulk up.

Get bigger.

Look…

Dirty bulk.

Get a little bit fat.

Look like Shrek.

Have big deltoids, zero definition for your arms, a big fat body, and your waist is almost the same size as your lats.

You look like a…

But that guy…

They once told one of my students who got five, I think he got like six lays or something.

One in Toronto and five in Mexico.

He was always crying.

He said, “John, my wingman always tells me that I need to build muscles, right?

That’s the only thing that’s working in Toronto right now.

Muscles.”

I was like, “Why does that matter?”

Because he says, “Well, if I cannot bulk up…”

Then I was like, “Dude, you gotta be whitewashed first of all, right?”

And when I mean whitewashed, he couldn’t understand why.

He was skinny and tall.

So he was around 5’10½”.

He wasn’t that short.

He was half Vietnamese and half Chinese.

But that guy got a fucking white girl sucking his dick in two weeks.

Why’d everyone disappear?

He was told that he needed to bulk up.

If he doesn’t bulk up, then women would not like him.

But I told him that’s not true.

He gotta be whitewashed.

He gotta be husband material.

Because I could have more students this year, but whatever students I do have, I’ve gotten almost all of them laid.

That kind of debunks the idea that you should spend $7,000 to get one lay in Latin America.

It’s a body count, it’s not a lay count.

It’s a body count.

What the fuck?

That’s stupid.

This is more ABCs of Attraction mental bullshit, like tall, self-proclaimed high-lay-count coaches’ bullshit.

Because they can’t get students laid for pickup anymore, they’re distracting you with Tinder because that’s the only thing they can do.

If you magically can get three lays, you will probably procreate.

That’s what I learned before.

It’s not the thing, which is nightgame or Tinder.

It’s the thing that sells the thing.

It is daygame that makes Tinder and nightgame work better.

Does that make sense?

So you feel more confident with daygame.

You have better social skills.

Social skills are the most important thing.

Social skills also mean better emotional control.

It’s hard for social skills, I’ll be honest with you, when I’m teaching Asian daygamers.

They don’t actually believe in social skills.

They believe in verbals.

And whenever they have to learn something new, they’re like, “Oh, fuck it.

Why can’t we just wear a black T-shirt and go out there in dirty bulk at nightgame?

Or why can’t we just fly to Latin America?”

Not everyone can afford to even fly to a third-world Latin American country.

Does that make sense?

You’re leaving behind a lot of Asians.

Not everyone can afford nightgame, alcohol, and spending so much on covers.

They can’t afford that.

But they can afford daygame.

My daygame course is very inexpensive compared to their boot camps.

It’s not $7,000.

It’s less than $1,000, and the reason why is because I want to help my Asian men.

I should charge more.

So people are finding it very, like, um…

Okay, somebody liked it.

Okay, thank you.

I am really the best daygame coach in the world.

I am so good that the more laid testimonials you see, the more they ignore me.

I’m that good.

Nobody can beat me, Game Global.

Against everybody, it’s like…

But I want more Asian students so I can dominate them.

It’s not enough to beat Game Global year after year.

Asians, before…

I’ll tell you the truth.

When I was teaching daygame in 2012, I was stealing another Asian dating coach’s students and teaching them.

I went to Jan Lifestyle’s meetups, and I stole all the students after getting their phone numbers and teaching them.

They’re like, “What the fuck?”

I was getting hundreds of lay testimonials flooding in because of Elite 30: From Hardcase to Hero.

And even a Vietnamese guy in 2026, he got laid this month and last month.

After 2018, I got the most Asians laid of all daygame coaches out there in the world.

Asian dating coaches are already quitting daygame.

They’re just teaching Tinder now.

So I’m John Elite.

I have the most Asians laid in the world for daygame, more than every daygame coach in the world combined.

This is a fact.

If you really think you can beat me, you guys pull up all your daygame lay testimonials.

We’ll compare my Asians versus all of the Asian dating coaches.

I will beat you guys like a Cherokee drum over and over again.

Even if you try to juggle all three, you end up being the jack of all trades and the master of none.

You focus on Tinder, and like, “Fuck, on the weekends I’ll go nightgame.”

But you barely even go, and then this falls off again.

Nothing’s happening.

All the women are turning their backs against you.

Only Asian women, if you’re a bulky Ninja Turtle with compound lifts, can you go home with them.

ABCs say we need to go to a third-world country, Latin America.

Then you try, then you pay $7,000.

You spin this plate.

You got one lay.

Fuck that.

Daygame.

You know, dating’s too hard.

“If it’s not working for white people, then why even bother as Asians?”

Three times and up.

We should not just say three times.

Three times is the minimum.

The minimum.

You can get laid three times from daygame, then you can put on the second plate.

But if you just focus on daygame, right, you got three.

Who is to say you cannot get six in the future if you scale it up?

Because you can get three.

We know what to do because you have Elite 30.

You have Elite Tonality Mastery.

You just have to scale it up.

Nightgame is dying because Gen Z is not drinking.

You’re like, “What do you mean?”

Gen Z does not go to bars.

Gen Z does not go to nightclubs.

They don’t actually believe in nightclubs.

So all the younger people…

They’ve closed down so many nightclubs these days.

So many bars have closed down.

People cannot afford to do nightgame because you have to spend money on Uber, on drinks for the women, and you have to spend money on a pull location if you’re not bringing her back home.

And then you can’t drive there if you’re drunk without a designated driver.

Fuck, man.

Seriously.

I’m Daygame Moses.

I’m trying to save you guys.

I’m trying to bring you to the Promised Land.

Not only do you not get any dates, you can’t even match with a single woman.

And you could be a male model, you know?

And you still get no matches or no dates.

They tell you what the problem is, which is all made up.

Just like Indian dating coaches telling you, “Oh, Indian hate,” whatever bullshit.

My students get Indian love.

They’ll say, “Oh, it’s Asian hate or whatever in North America.”

It’s like, shut up, liars.

Because you lean too heavily on nightgame and Tinder, you’re limiting yourself.

I’m gonna share with you how focusing on daygame first can really set you up for success.

It can work its way downwards.

You’re Asian.

You don’t look like a K-pop artist.

Okay, fine.

Whatever, right?

For me, you know, even if I look a little bit K-pop, I get matches with the hottest women in Vancouver, but they don’t come out on dates.

It’s like I’m attractive, but not sexy.

They don’t give a fuck.

Back to daygame.

For some people, daygame is really the only option.

You don’t get any matches on Tinder, and also for nightgame, the women just turn their backs to you.

Do you think I got any more students from that?

No.

They just looked at it with a thumb up their ass, giving up, turning super MGTOW now.

Don’t be a jack of all trades.

If you’re a jack of all trades, you’re a master of none.

But don’t fuck around with three plates.

Juggling one plate is hard.

Two plates…

It’s like running one business and then trying to run a second business.

You run too much on the second business, your first one starts to die, and then you start focusing on the third thing.

Does that make sense?

And then both of the businesses die.

It’s like you try to run three businesses, right?

Like an entrepreneur.

No, that’s the wrong mindset.

Sometimes in business, you focus on one thing until it makes you a certain amount of money, then you can branch out.

It’s called vertical scaling.

Asians should not give up.

Asians, you need to double down on daygame.

Fuck nightgame.

There’s no mathematical formula that’s gonna make you win, unless you wanna go after Asian women.

Social skills are 2.5 points.

Social calibration is 2.5 points.

But that’s already five fucking points.

That’s huge.

Emotional control is 2.5 points, but it can be minus 2.5 if you start having cortisol in your voice.

Don’t you get it?

Minus 2.5.

So whatever advantage you got from it can be taken away.

That’s why they like to use Tinder, because they cannot hear the voice.

But anyways, why work on emotional control, right?

Why not stick to nightgame and just Tinder?

Because nightgame does not have social skills because it’s a loud nightclub.

It’s like doof, doof, doof.

Don’t you get it, guys?

It’s so fucking loud, you can’t really have social skills.

You can’t hear each other.

It’s so loud that you just have to scream in her ear, “I like your style.”

How can you have a conversation with each other with loud music and alcohol?

There is no emotional control.

When you show up for 30 days in a row, then you’ll fucking get laid.

You gotta put in the work.

You gotta work it, and then you extract it.

You might think you’re getting a good deal, but if you’re not getting laid, you’re getting played.

Tinder, right?

All roads lead to MGTOW except for daygame.

This is your only solution.

ABCs is really unethical.

And then by the end of the month, right, in one year, you spent $7,000, the same as their Latin World Tour.

If you went to nightgame and you went to the Latin World Tour, that’s $14,000 gone.

There’s no cheap way.

And that’s the thing.

It’s about making money.

It’s not so much about helping you.

There’s nothing they do above me.

My students get laid from daygame.

They get girlfriends from daygame.

They get married from daygame.

They procreate from daygame.

But I can tell you one thing…

You are so stressed out by the tariff that you have so much cortisol.

Women can hear it in your voice.

When you’re stressed out by cortisol stress, your voice will sound different than two years ago.

AI is not good at thinking, but AI is really, really good at automation.

Any job that can be automated, repeated, AI will take over your fucking job.

That’s why Gen Z can’t even find a fucking job.

Due to cortisol, right, you don’t have enough focus to actually get the plate up there to grab the stick and spin it in a circle.

You can’t spin both of them like that because you can’t focus.

Opportunity cost.

It’s all about getting real results.

So the first insight is that Asian men should try to get a minimum of three lays from daygame before doing nightgame or Tinder.

Three minimum.

Spin the plates up.

Do Elite 30.

If you don’t get laid the first time, you do Elite 30 from day one again to day 30.

Nightgame does not have social skills.

It does not have emotional control, right?

So if you start nightgame and you start with less because of loud music and alcohol, how are you supposed to do daygame?

Don’t you see?

It’s all collapsing.

The birth rate’s collapsing.

I’m not trying to use Problem, Agitate, Solve.

I’m only telling you guys the truth.

I can give you the steps.

I’m not like ABCs, Problem, Agitate, Solve.

I’m not here trying to manipulate you.

I’m only telling the truth to wake you up.

If I’m ever manipulating you, call me out.

That’s not gonna work.

You need to assimilate so you can blend in with the white women.

Assimilation gets my students all laid.

One Asian, lays.

Another Indian, two lays, Toronto.

And another guy, five lays.

They all dress whitewashed.

So that’s the thing.

Husband-material vibes.

It’s like they’re really putting effort into looking the part, but they also need to hone in on their social skills.

All roads lead to MGTOW except for daygame for Asian men.

You could get 75 if you just travel in Latin America by yourself without paying ABCs.

So that’s a lie.

Yes, you’re escalating, but because you’re not using social skills, you’re using verbals, right?

Or what you call conversational verbals.

He did not get laid, because if he got laid, you would smear it in everyone’s face.

I know your system.

You use a finger, you try turning around and say, “I think you’re fucking beautiful.”

Your status is whatever money.

They’re engineers.

They have money, and their status is always 1 out of 10.

A white guy will have 10 out of 10, you know that.

They have more advantages than Asians.

Indians will be 2 out of 10, unless they’re whitewashed, then they’re 4 out of 10.

Asians will always be 1 out of 10 or 0 out of 10 if they’re FOB.

But now, because of the tariffs, the minus 2.5 points for emotional control has taken away your game.

That’s why you bring your students over to Latin America, JT, to go and swipe on Tinder for $7,000.

It makes it easier.

You know why?

Because nightgame and Tinder have women who are down to fuck, JT.

They go to those environments because they’re down to fuck.

That’s why you cannot get students laid in North America for daygame because your threshold, your game, is leveled at 15 out of 35.

Maybe in 2024, 2023, and 2022, you might have a good point.

You have students laid from nightgame.

I give you…

I applaud you for that.

But North America in 2025 and 2026, that is gone.

Well, in daygame, right, I don’t actually touch them on the shoulders.

I’ll walk past her.

I’ll look back for two seconds to get her attention.

I’ll turn my body 45 degrees, not squaring off, which is different from you.

I’ll use a hybrid opener, indirect, transitioning to an adaptive opener so it seems more natural.

You try to bring that to daygame, you do too much physical touching, and you say, “You’re fucking beautiful.”

Your students will not get any results, so they quit daygame, and it becomes an afterthought.

So you don’t teach it for Toronto.

Our mission is very simple, okay?

If you’re part of ABCs of Attraction, and that’s you, JT, we’re both here to get Asian people laid, married, and procreating, right?

Like you’re trying to fit in, right?

But something always feels off.

That’s incongruence.

If you’re not whitewashed, it really takes a toll on both your social life and dating life.

But the only reason why that works in Latin America is because of the four traits of status maxing, JT.

The high-status job.

They’re engineers.

They make more money than the entire population of Latin America, outside of drug dealers.

They have a better lifestyle on their Instagram.

If I’m the only one who can get people laid for daygame, and daygame is 20 out of 35, and nightgame is 15 out of 35…

Down to fuck.

Maybe I know what I’m talking about.

Maybe I’m just smarter than you.

You end up feeling stuck, like your only option is nightgame or hopping on a plane to Latin America.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

And the third insight is that learning daygame and becoming proficient at it has a downward effect towards nightgame and Tinder.

But for daygame, I’m king.

Nobody can beat me.

I’m just not well known, but nobody can beat me.

I’ve got 700 laid reports and testimonials.

Everything that white dating coaches or infielders teach you…

Squaring off, eye contact, direct compliments, collecting flaky phone numbers, setting up dates…

None of it works.

Daygame, there’s nobody who can beat me.

I’m John Wick.

Bring them all on, and I’ll just knock them all down.

So as I was saying, the fourth insight is that mastering daygame first…

Seriously, if you get really good at daygame, it makes nightgame and Tinder much easier because you’re closing on dates, and they’re down to fuck for nightgame and Tinder.

Despite all his looks, he doesn’t actually have any skills.

And he told my other ABC student that daygame’s impossible.

“Why are you not using Instagram?

Are you crazy?

Nobody uses daygame anymore.

You’re the only one.”

The only game that you need is maneuver.

Sexualize it to the maximum.

Deal with sexual objections.

Flirt in between when she talks more.

But you gotta maneuver her back home.

Same-day lays.

That’s all you need.

All this other stuff, this push-pull, self-amusement, all this other shit is all mental masturbation.

It’s all bullshit.

So that’s the thing.

This is super important because you spread yourself too thin when you juggle all three of these styles on the plate over here.

You see that?

Here’s a stick and here’s a plate.

You juggle all three of them, you only have enough energy for one at a time.

In nightgame, mostly you get Asian women with big, bulky bodies because ABCs cannot get their students laid anymore, or you go to Latin America for Latinas.

Where’s the white girls?

It’s all in daygame.

If you like white pussy, daygame is where it’s at for Asians.

A lot of Asian men get stuck.

They end up only doing nightgame, going after women in North America who are down to fuck, and then their emotional control is affected by the tariff.

Then they hop onto Latin America just for Tinder, and then they never develop their social skills.

So really, starting with daygame first could set Asian men up for more success in the long run.

I get it.

Okay?

I’m giving you a lot of time here.

Half a year.

You have to get them laid.

If you don’t get them laid, I will be very vocal about it from December until the next year.

You got six months.

You better figure this shit out.

You can’t just take their money.

People can’t even afford to date anymore.

You gotta go through basic training of the army now.

You gotta learn how to shoot the rifle.

You gotta do the 30-day challenge.

Then you go to Krav Maga.

Then you go back to the other ones and mix them together.

We’re changing this curriculum for this year.

Asians, you have no choice.

Forget about those half-hearted approaches.

Let’s make it easier.

All this complicated Mystery Method nonsense no longer works.

As you can see, it doesn’t work for ABCs.

It’s about learning how to show up without stressing yourself out.

The world is, like, on fire right now.

Iran war, tariffs, everything’s fucked.

Team Global…

It’s bullshit.

Don’t be brainwashed, guys.

Because they don’t have lay testimonials anymore.

If they had it, they’d show it.

They just don’t have it.

They have rhetoric.

They have brainwashing.

Don’t you see a pattern here?

ABCs switch to Tinder.

And here’s the thing…

I think the reason why it’s so important is that you do not pay for the whole thing at once.

Most people bought Elite 30 first.

And if you’re a bad student, an unteachable case, then you don’t get to take Elite Access.

I’m not joking.

When I say I’m the world’s best daygame coach, it has an impact.

When I say I’m the world’s best daygame coach…

Give a thumbs up.

When I say I’m the world’s best daygame coach, there’s no shakiness in my voice.

I’m the world’s best daygame coach.

There’s none.

I will beat the fuck out of all you Game Global people in terms of teaching daygame over and over.

All the Indian coaches, all the Asian coaches, all the white coaches.

-John Elite

I wish I can write more blog post. I type out the original script which takes time. I only have so much energy in a day. But I hope this was educational for Asian men because I got another Indian student laid here Oct 31st, 2026.

His video testimonial is alreadyy filmed. He was a former ABCs of Attraction student who got 0 lays from their bootcamps. All his lays are from my coaching. Hes not the only one. Its very common. They just give good reviews, but doesn’t mean they can do daygame. Just go to Latin countries to swipe on Tinder or Night game in eastern europe.

Indian Assimilation Daygame Will Stop Indian Hate Get You Laid Like My Students. Here’s Why

100 VIEWS, MORE VIDEOS. This script took two days to write and revise, watch it.

The Australian Rejection and the Question Everyone’s Asking

Hey, did you know that most Indian guys doing daygame in the West think they’re getting rejected because of racism?

But what if it’s actually xenophobia?

Keep watching and I’ll explain the difference.

Not because they’re Indian.

Because of how they show up.

And I know, I know, you’re like, John, what do you mean?

So there are a lot of Indian dating coaches out there right now, and some of them keep putting out videos asking if Indian guys assimilating in the West will stop Indian hate.

Will it?

Short answer, no.

But that’s not the question you should be asking, and I’ll explain why in a second.

Let me tell you about this student from Australia.

Curly hair, pink work shirt, unshaved beard.

He’s out there approaching women and they’re telling him “get away from me.”

Straight up.

Get away from me.

Then we dressed him like my other students, and he couldn’t get rejected.

I’m not joking.

Hard to believe, but I saw it with my own eyes.

So I promise you, in this video I’m going to explain why these other Indian coaches are half right, and why that half-right advice keeps you broke and not laid.

But first, what they get right.

They’re Right About Racism, Wrong About What You Want

Okay, so a lot of these Indian dating coaches say assimilation won’t stop Indian hate.

In my opinion, they’re right.

Putting on a blazer isn’t going to fix racism.

Nothing in your closet is going to touch that.

But here’s the big idea.

There are two different things people mix up.

One is structural racism, the system stuff, and clothes won’t touch it.

The other is xenophobia, which is just fear of what looks foreign.

And presentation can bypass that, because a woman on the street makes her call in two seconds, before you open your mouth.

And by the way, assimilating doesn’t mean you have low izzat.

I’ll explain that later in this video, so keep watching.

You’re not here to stop hate.

You’re here to get laid.

Two different jobs, and you keep mixing them up.

That’s why you’re stuck.

Do not fight a culture war.

Get laid through daygame.

Say it with me, don’t fight a culture war, get laid through daygame.

You can care about the big stuff on your own time, but a woman walking past you in daylight doesn’t owe you a debate about history.

Now, I’m not Indian, okay?

But my Indian students’ results earned my respect, every single time.

So this is tough love, and I’m saying it because I want you to win.

Don’t clip it out of context.

So what’s the real foundation here?

Let’s get into it.

Social Dynamics, Status, and Husband Material

So the first secret is you don’t need the political fight.

You need to read social dynamics.

And the big idea here is that status is just how a stranger reads you in two seconds.

That’s it.

This is important because most guys never got the manual on how this works, so they walk around sending signals they don’t even know about.

Let me give you a rough chart, and this is a coaching metaphor, not some measured rank, okay?

Perceived natural status for an Indian-washed guy, call it a 2 out of 10.

Whitewashed, call it a 4 out of 10.

Same guy.

Same brain.

Different package.

Now what’s whitewashed?

And no, it’s not what those other coaches keep making it sound like.

It’s the full outfit.

Blazer, shirt, pants, shoes.

Same haircut.

Pomade, not coconut oil.

And you use it like a ninja, for social stealth.

You slip past the xenophobia filter and she never even registers it.

The second secret is husband material.

Women naturally want marriage and kids, right?

So you present as husband material even if you don’t want it.

You give her what she wants, and you get laid faster through daygame.

Does that make sense?

And listen, you start as fuck buddies first.

If you want a relationship later, you sleep with her more per week until she’s the one asking to change the frame.

No romantic flirts.

Seriously.

None.

Now I know what you’re thinking.

Prove it.

Okay.

Over 700 laid and pulled testimonials.

More Indian men laid through daygame than any other coach, allegedly, in my opinion, and I know what I’m talking about.

Every Indian guy married to a white woman is assimilated, every single one.

And my Pakistani mentor?

Whitewashed husband material.

But as I was saying, you’re probably wondering how Indian men got stuck on the old advice in the first place.

Let’s talk about that.

How Indian Men Got Sold “Dominate, Don’t Assimilate”

So here’s the old advice, and you’ve heard it a thousand times from a bunch of different Indian dating coaches.

Stay Indian-washed.

Keep your pride.

Be yourself, and women will respect it.

And then what happens?

You walk up to a girl in daylight and she goes, “get away from me.”

That’s the respect.

That’s what your pride bought you.

Now look at the package, because the package was the problem.

Curly hair, big beard, a shirt that looks like it came from your uncle’s closet.

All of that plays right into the stereotypes she already has in her head.

So shave off the bhenchod beard.

I’m saying it with love, okay?

Shave it.

And let me clarify that word, because I know somebody’s going to clip it.

Bhenchod, when I use it, is Indian-to-Indian tough love only.

It describes guys who procrastinate, who waste time, who don’t follow instructions, who are cheap, who stonewall.

That’s the behavior I’m talking about.

Don’t clip it out of context.

I mean it.

Here’s what the old advice never told you.

Women go through a line.

First the tall white boyfriends.

Then the shorter guys.

Then, finally, they settle down.

That’s the line, and it takes years, and most of those years you’re not in it.

But husband material skips the whole line.

You don’t wait your turn, you show up already looking like the end of the line.

And I promise you, that’s not an accident.

Take my students.

Same haircut, same blazer, same products, every single one.

Deliberate.

Every single time.

I’m not letting a guy walk out the door with his own idea of style, because his own idea of style is what got him rejected before he got to me.

And that’s the point.

The old advice sounded proud, but pride doesn’t get you laid.

The package got you rejected, and nobody was brave enough to tell you.

Now, why would so many of them keep selling you that old advice?

Follow the money.

The $8,000 Ego Business

Boot camps in this world run $8,000 to $18,000, and mostly it’s $8,000 and up.

Check the advertised price yourself before you hang it on any one coach, okay?

There are so many Indian dating coaches now, and I’m not naming names.

Look at the pricing pages and do the math on your own.

Then there’s the ethnicity-loyalty pitch.

Buy from your own kind.

A guy who looks like you, who gets you, who’s one of us.

And in my opinion, that’s a nice way to charge Latin and European tour pricing to other Asian guys who just want a girlfriend.

You’re not buying a skill there.

You’re buying a feeling that somebody finally understands you.

And it works like a loop.

First they praise your pride, you feel great.

Then they poke your insecurity, you feel small.

Then they sell you the relief.

Praise, poke, sell.

Praise, poke, sell.

Every single time.

And a lot of this comes down to a mindset called Jugaad.

I’ll explain that in a second.

And a lot of this comes down to a mindset called Jugaad.

I’ll explain that in a second.

You come back for more because the pain never gets fixed, it just gets rented.

So let me ask you something.

If you’re already enough, exactly as you are, why are you paying thousands for a weekend?

What you need is a haircut and the ability to speak clearly with real social skills.

That’s it.

Now the crutches, and I’m not naming any coach here, and I’m not inventing evidence about anybody, okay?

But across a lot of these coaches, there are many crutches.

Alcohol is a big one, and they bring it right into the bedroom before the heavy bedroom escalation.

Pour her a few drinks, then push.

If your method only works when she’s drinking, that’s not a skill, that’s a chemical doing your job for you.

Take away the alcohol and the whole thing falls apart, because the guys never learned anything.

They just borrowed a drunk woman’s lowered guard.

And I’m not Indian, okay, but I understand the culture, so I know exactly what this is.

It’s jugaad.

Jugaad is the workaround, the life hack, the quick fix.

And at its best, it’s genius.

Somebody sticks a water pump on a bicycle to irrigate a field, that’s clever, I respect it.

But when you take that shortcut mindset and put it into daygame, it turns into cheating the process.

Get her drunk.

Push the bedroom escalation on a woman who’s barely thinking straight.

That’s not game, that’s jugaad.

You got the result without building one real skill, and a lot of other Indian dating coaches teach exactly that, allegedly, in my opinion.

Chalta hai, close enough, whatever works tonight.

No.

If she needs a drink to say yes, you didn’t earn the yes.

Does that make sense?

A skill works in daylight, on a quiet street, with a woman who’s stone cold sober and walking to her own meeting.

That’s why my system is built the other way.

No alcohol.

No romantic flirts.

Sober in daylight, with a woman who could say no at any second and sometimes does.

If it works there, it works anywhere, and you never need a crutch again.

So let me take a quick break and tell you something important.

Demographic shift

Okay, so let me tell you what’s changed, because the numbers changed.

There are way more Indian guys in the West now than there were years ago.

More students, more tech workers, more guys landing in cities where nobody looks like them.

And a lot of them are finally getting curious about daygame, which is great, right?

I love it.

But here’s the problem.

Most of them walk in carrying the old advice, so they’re showing up in bigger numbers with the same package that already failed.

Curly hair, same beard, same coconut oil.

A hundred guys doing the wrong thing doesn’t make it right.

It just means a hundred guys get told “get away from me” on the same street.

And the old-school way, where you just try to be the nice guy, where you wait and hope she picks you, that was built for a time when there were a handful of Indian guys in town.

Nobody was watching.

Nobody had a stereotype loaded.

Now there’s a picture in her head before you even say hello, and that picture is not doing you any favors.

So you got two choices.

Keep showing up in the old package and hope the numbers work for you.

Or change the one thing you control.

Why Indians targeted

Now, why do Indian guys get it harder on the street?

And I know what you’re thinking, John, are you saying it’s because we’re passive?

No.

I’m saying something way simpler, and way more useful.

The big idea here is that women react to what’s easy to read.

A guy who looks like the stereotype, talks like the stereotype, and rushes through his words like he’s apologizing for being there, gets filed in a box in two seconds.

And once you’re in the box, nothing you say matters.

It’s not personal.

It’s pattern recognition.

This is important because most guys think they’re being rejected for who they are.

They’re not.

They’re being rejected for what the package signals before they open their mouth.

Indian-washed outfit, nervous tonality, no space between the words.

That combo says low status, low confidence, and she doesn’t owe you a second look.

And here’s what I see over and over.

The guy gets rejected, and then he takes it as proof that everybody hates him.

So he stops approaching.

He goes home.

He watches another video from one of those coaches who tell him it’s all about racism and pride.

Then he’s back to square one, broke and not laid.

But as I was saying, you can change the signal.

Same guy, same brain, new package, cleaner voice.

The woman who said “get away from me” last month walks right past the new version of you and doesn’t even blink.

I’ve seen it.

Every single time.

So stop taking it personal.

It’s a system, and a system can be beaten.

Get Training

Okay, I’m going to take a quick break here, because I want you to hear this.

If you’re tired of recycled advice from guys who never did the work, listen up.

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Not theory.

Real results, from real guys, in real daylight.

And I put everything into one package.

It’s called Elite Bundle Resurrections.

Body language, daily consulting, tonality.

All the pieces that fix the package, the voice, and the approach, in one place.

The link’s in the description.

I’ll give you the full breakdown at the end of this video, so stick around for that.

But back to the question.

So does assimilation help or not?

Let’s get into the real answer.

Demographics, Looking Different, and the Fear Trigger

So here’s their point, and I’ll be honest about it.

A lot of them say that as Indian numbers grow and the men look different, local fear can grow too.

Fair.

I’m not arguing with that.

A bigger crowd of anybody gets noticed more.

But here’s the part they skip.

Fear and xenophobia hit hardest in the two-second street read.

That’s the window.

That’s the only window you control, and it’s the only one that matters when you’re standing in front of a stranger in daylight.

So does assimilation work for getting laid?

Yes.

Does assimilation stop hate?

No.

Two different questions, two different answers.

Yes for getting laid, no for stopping hate.

Say it back to me.

Yes for the first one, no for the second one.

Now, tonality.

Whitewashed tonality.

And the real issue isn’t your accent, okay?

Everybody thinks it’s the accent.

It’s not.

It’s stuttering, rushing, and a low-confidence voice.

Fix those three and women don’t even realize you’re Indian, because they’re too busy reacting to a guy who sounds like he belongs in the conversation.

And why don’t the big numbers matter to you?

Because you’re not approaching a country.

You’re approaching one woman at a time.

One.

A woman walking to a coffee shop doesn’t know what the census says, and she doesn’t care.

So what about the hierarchy argument?

Because a lot of them push one.

Assimilation Doesn’t Move You Up, Presentation Moves You Over

Their line is that assimilation just makes you a useful servant.

It doesn’t move you up the ladder.

Okay.

Maybe on their ladder, in their videos, that’s true.

But the daygame hierarchy is a different thing, and you’re not climbing a white man’s ladder when you walk up to a girl on the sidewalk.

Nobody’s ranking you against the founding fathers.

She’s deciding if she wants to keep walking or stop and talk.

And remember the line we talked about, the boyfriend line?

Same thing here.

Asian and Indian men who present as husband material skip the tall white boyfriends, skip the shorter guys, skip the settling part, and land right at the end.

You’re not moving up.

You’re moving over.

Big difference.

So the whitewashed look is ninja stealth, like I said.

You dodge the xenophobia, and you keep your own goals.

Your goals stay your goals.

Nobody’s asking you to give up your family, your food, your holidays.

I’m asking you to change the thing a stranger sees in two seconds, so you actually get to talk to her.

Now here’s what a lot of guys miss.

She reads your non-verbal communication before your words even come out.

Body language.

Facial expressions.

How you stand, how you breathe, whether your eyes are darting around.

Those are your social calibrations, and they speak first.

Your words are the second message.

The first message is already sent.

And the real weakness isn’t your look.

Let’s talk about that.

Not Adapting Is the Real Weakness

Their claim is that over-adapting signals weakness.

And in my opinion, they’ve got it backwards.

Real weakness is knowing your presentation hurts you, knowing it, and doing nothing about it.

That’s the guy who gets “get away from me” five weeks in a row and still shows up in the same shirt with the same beard.

Now I know why you do it, and I want you to hear me say it, because I understand your mindset.

There’s a Hindi word, Izzat.

Status.

Honor.

Face.

And I get it, it’s deep in your culture.

And look, I respect Indian culture a lot.

My Indian students’ results speak for themselves.

This is tough love, not hate.

I’m telling you the truth because I want you to win.

These behaviors, the dominance mindset, the “I’m above this” attitude, they turn women off in the West.

That’s not insulting you, that’s respecting you enough to be honest.

But some of these other Indian dating coaches take that word and twist it into a dominance, win-at-all-cost mentality.

And it keeps you stuck.

Here’s how it works.

Izzat turns into “my status means I’m above certain tasks, and above the people who do them.”

Look at the trash thing.

A guy throws his garbage on the ground because cleaning up is beneath his izzat.

Somebody lower is supposed to do it.

Same guy talks down to the waiter, yells at the driver, treats the cleaner like dirt, because treating them like an equal would drop his izzat in front of the onlookers.

That’s not respect, that’s performing dominance.

And it’s rooted in old feudal and caste thinking, where the high people never touch the dirty work.

Even when nobody says the word caste, the entitlement is still sitting there.

So now apply that to your outfit.

Fix your hair, learn a new tonality, change the shirt, take instructions from a coach?

That feels beneath your izzat.

You’re too good to adapt.

Too proud to change the package.

Right?

And that’s exactly the trap, because it feels like strength and keeps you exactly where you are.

But as I was saying, this does nothing for you in the West with women.

Nothing.

A woman on the street doesn’t care about your izzat, your family name, or who you’re above.

She cares how you make her feel in the two seconds you’re standing in front of her.

That’s the whole game.

Dominance over a server doesn’t get you laid.

Dominance over her isn’t what she wants either.

She wants a guy who looks and sounds like he belongs in the conversation.

Does that make sense?

Your izzat isn’t protecting you.

Your izzat is keeping you single.

Burn it.

And that’s bhenchoding, again, as the meme.

Procrastinating.

Not following instructions.

Being cheap.

Stonewalling.

Every guy I’ve coached who stayed stuck was doing at least two of those.

Tough love, okay?

I’m saying it because I want you to win.

So you burn the boats.

No plan B.

No “maybe I’ll keep the beard just in case.”

No “let me try it my way first.”

That’s how you end up right back where you started.

You commit, you change the package, and you never look back.

And those boot camp coaches, a lot of them, will tell you it’s your pride talking.

They’ll say it’s your culture, your roots, your identity.

Stop worshipping them.

They’re not protecting you, they’re protecting the sale.

Your pride isn’t the problem.

The advice is.

So what actually works?

Here it is, step by step.

What Works: The System, Step by Step

Okay, step one is the outfit.

The full look, not half of it.

You put it on, you take a photo, and you compare that photo to the reference.

If it doesn’t match, it’s not done.

And then you test it in daylight on real women, not in your bedroom mirror, because the mirror lies to you and the street doesn’t.

Step two is the haircut.

You bring the reference photo to the barber.

Don’t say “just a trim,” because you’ll get the same cut you’ve had since high school.

Show the picture, point at it.

Then you learn the pomade routine at home, every morning, and you match the beard finish so it looks clean and cut, not wild.

If you skip the home routine, the haircut lasts one day and then you look like yourself again.

Step three is the tonality drill, and this is where most guys cheat.

First, audible volume.

She has to hear you without leaning in.

Second, less rushing.

Slow down, take your time, like you’re singing your words.

Here’s a fun one, British singers lose their accent when they sing.

Same guy, same mouth, and the accent just disappears.

So when you slow down and stretch your words a little, your voice gets smoother and the stuttering falls away.

And leave a gap after you finish a sentence, so she has room to answer.

Pick one habit per week.

One.

Don’t try to fix your whole voice in a weekend, because you’ll fix nothing and quit.

Step four is the social skills flow drill.

You say hello, you hold the conversation, and you keep it moving without forcing it.

And here’s a small thing that matters.

When she starts talking more than you, that’s your cue to flirt.

She’s investing, so you can play a little.

Before that, you’re just getting her warmed up.

Step five is the arrow science game, and it’s three steps.

First, you maneuver, you move the interaction somewhere better.

Second, you sexualize, you let her know you’re a man who’s attracted to her.

Third, you handle objections, and you loop that until she says okay.

Objection, answer, objection, answer, around and around until she gives you the yes.

And all of it, every bit, without a drop of alcohol.

Sober, in daylight, in the real world.

And if she says no?

You thank her and you walk on.

No chasing.

No arguing.

No “but wait, let me explain.”

A no is a no, and you leave with your head up.

That’s part of being husband material, by the way.

Guys who can’t take a no don’t look like husbands, they look like trouble.

So that’s the system.

Outfit, haircut, voice, flow, game.

Now here’s how you get all of it, without spending months guessing.

Elite Bundle Resurrections Full Breakdown

So let me say it one more time, blunt.

Assimilation will not stop Indian hate.

It will get you laid faster.

Two different jobs, and I’m only here to help with one of them.

Does that make sense?

Now here’s what’s inside the Elite Bundle Resurrections.

The first piece is Elite 30.

That’s body language.

How you stand, how you walk, what your face is doing when she looks at you.

Remember, she reads all of that before you say a word, so we fix it first.

The second piece is Elite Access.

That’s 15 minutes a day of consulting with me.

Real feedback, on your outfit photos and your voice recordings.

Not a pat on the back.

I tell you what’s wrong, you fix it the next day, and we do it again.

Every single day.

The third piece is Elite Tonality Mastery.

This is where we fix the voice.

The stuttering, the rushing, the low-confidence sound.

There’s a financing option available too, so don’t tell me you can’t afford it.

If you can afford a sixty dollar haircut and a blazer, you can start.

And I’m adding bonuses.

The Elite Playbook, and 10 Skypes.

Ten one-on-one calls where we go over your real approaches, your real mistakes, and what to change.

That’s not theory, that’s me looking at your game and telling you straight.

Now here’s the part I always say, and I mean it.

I honestly don’t know how much longer I’ll keep this available.

Prices will probably go up.

So click the link in the description and get it today while it’s still available.

Don’t wait until next month, because next month you’ll still be wearing the same shirt and getting the same “get away from me.”

Burn the boats.

No plan B.

No “I’ll think about it.”

You think about it for another year and it’s the same guy, same beard, same Friday night alone.

And do this today, right now, before you close this video.

Take your outfit photos.

Record your introduction, the way you’d say hello to a woman on the street.

Look at both.

Be honest.

That’s your starting line.

I’m always here to help.

I can’t wait to see you on the inside.

Have a great day, and binge watch more of my videos.

-John Elite