What is a (instagram) validation whore


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There are a lot of girls out there who are just in it for the validation. This is something very common in North America. She is basically a narcissistic girl who likes, well….likes on her Instagram and social media. She loves showing herself off, carefully selecting pictures. When in reality, she isn’t even that hot. She could be photogenic and suffer from narcissistic personality disorder if one of her parents genetically have it.

The first type of validation whore, the prettier enough type

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No idea who she is, just an example of a random picture. I have no idea who she is. Usually, it is just a selfie, but a carefully crafted one. She only enables a certain amount of pictures in a less is more format. This girl is quite attractive and sort of my type. She has a very feminine personality. But she got a big fucking nose. She tends to wear a ton of makeup looking nothing like she does without it. She might look like a 8.5/10 in real life, but close to a 7 without makeup. Then a bunch of guys would like her post. She starts to feel validation from it. Hence the term validation whores. You have to watch out for these type of girls. They tend to be very flaky and won’t come out on dates. They are in it for the validation. Just by having a lot of likes, they don’t even need to go out on dates anymore. She just enjoys the ego or validation it gives her. These types of girls have very low self-esteem. They are rarely 9/10, but close to 8.5/10 or less. My point is she enjoys the validation but is flaky and won’t come out on a date with you. Unless you show excessive preselection or lifestyle in your social media. They are the type of girls who are dating others guys and has a lot of options to choose from. They often pick a guy who doesn’t give a shit about her, a psychopath much like her personality trait. He would be emotionally detached and will most likely cheat on her.

You only fit into three categories. For this type of girl. She tends to be shallow where you can be penalized by your race. She always pics someone who is her race or above, hypergamy style. Second, she will try to have you as an option on the back burner. You would try to contact you occasionally and never comes out when you make plans. She is just in it for the validation. Just give a short reply and if she doesn’t make plans, don’t even bother. Say you are busy and you will keep in touch. Sometimes all she wants is the validation. Nothing more, she just has low self-esteem and is a remorseless, no empathy, no self-esteem girl. She might be pretty, but she has no self-esteem whatsoever. The point is, if you act as an orbiter, she will put you in the gay best friend category so she can have you as an option. Girls like these don’t realize as they get older, they lose their looks, no guys like them anymore. If she doesn’t get married before her looks dry up. You want to know how a girl will turn out, just look at her mom. You see her future. Even when she gets older, she falls for you as she runs out of options. She will bang another guy and cheat on you. Or it’s likely because you are her man and you don’t turn her on.

Second type of validation whore, the ugly friend

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For every hot girl on instagram who is a validation whore. She always has an ugly friend who thinks she is hot. I know that sounds like a paradox. But this type of girl is often delusional. They have masculine features and huge deformities like a hook eagle nose or squared jawline. She would often claim she is hot because the hotter friend will tell her so. She might also be extremely short and insist she is not adorable or whatever, but is hot. Of course, no guys think so. Of course, this is the most extreme example for this pic above. But you get the idea. Since her friend has way more likes on instagram than her. She keeps telling her friend she is hot, but in reality she isn’t. So she gets narcissistic too, then you say bitch plz, seriously? We are talking about a 6/10 level. A type of girl you wouldn’t want to be caught dead having as a girlfriend. A type of girl who demands you be in a relationship and she isn’t dtf otherwise. Even if she has no preselection whatsoever. Most of these girls are delusional, often are the dark triad, sociopaths, narcissistic and Machiavelli manipulators. They have no empathy and doesn’t act feminine. But extremely masculine. Her personality is just as bad or non-existent as the first girl. But in a bad way. She has personality issues that tend to repel guys away. Along with her lack of preselection.

Solution

  1. Mostly the politically correct answer is to just avoid them and don’t waste your time unless you don’t mind being on the back burner. Just keep saying great hearing from you, keep in touch, over and over again. She just wants to know if you are still an orbiter. Unless she ask you to meet her, don’t bother. Even if you meet her, but your game isn’t tight, you would of fucked it up even though you knew her for years.
  2. The politically incorrect answer is to call her out on text. First, you call her out, then you reverse the frame. It’s funny how you are playing hard to get, but you are losing points with me. I am with much hotter girls etc. I want to thank my friend for this field-tested advice. You know who you are. He field tested it, so it is a solid solution. Unethical, but she will eventually come out since you flip the script. You want to do this fast and get her out. Too much delays is game over. Remember, who has the strongest frame wins. It’s not just calling her out on her shit, or giving value offering text. But really reversing the entire frame where she has to chase you to keep you interested. Qualification is important in the game to make her chase. This takes practice, but you need a strong frame and no neediness whatsoever in your texting. Its not being butthurt. Being butthurt is just calling her out without actually getting her to qualify.
  3. The other is DHV though your own Instagram. Fighting fire with fire. If your Instagram isn’t creepy but shows you are cool and have women, lifestyle, preselection. You can flip the script you are with other women hotter than her. That flips the preselection script and gets her to chase you. Of course, a bunch of selfies by yourself is a no, no. It is a demonstration of lower value. This might take time, but this is something you can strive for, a lifestyle game. I know every game style and I know how to do these stuff. I just don’t utilize it. I come from an old school pickup mentality. I like things harder and at nightmare difficulty. I’m used to it, but someday I will consider this type of game. But it is something you can look into. It makes a lot of sense and I’m sure one day this setup game or whatever it is called will be more popular.

But for now, I am still going to try to perfect the escalation ladder and squeeze every last drop of water out of the stone, or game. Deepak already approved of the brand new escalation ladder. It’s raining like crazy but the bootcamps will have to start soon eventually. Most are booked anyways. You might be able to train with me in March if you are lucky.

Regardless I hope this post enlightens you if you ever been in this situation. Also, it helps explain why it is happening. You’re stuck in a logical frame. Women are logical and emotional. You are dealing with the logical side of her brain. But, you ask yourself if a girl says I know what I deserve and all this nonsense. You ask, what does she bring to the table beside looks? Its not an easy question to answer is it? There is an entitlement that is created with social media. This makes daygame or pickup a lot harder. You have to compete against the validation she gets from instagram likes.

-John Wayne

 

 

 

 

 

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