Author: John Elite

I noticed a trend recently among the hardcases. Maybe summer is over and the fall begins so they are busier. A lot of them are dropping like flies near the end of this month. But the more value you give a student, free class, free advice, free wardrobe consulting. They don’t respect your advice because it is free. It is a paradox really. You think by giving free advice they want more. But in reality, unless they emotionally invested, then they would listen. They don’t value it, until they pay for it. I have to watch out giving so much value. Some people are vampires. Hardcases are quitters. It is funny how I got everyone a date, a pull and laid. But some still act hardcase and quit. Give value, don’t take value. Think win/win.

Being a PUA is hard. But some people are so close to the edge of success. There is an initial hump. A beginners hell. Some people wash out. In fact 95% of people will wash out. 5% will stay, but 1% will be good and world-class. The 4% would suck. But they would be the creepy PUA types you hear about in lairs. It filters out a special breed of people. Such is the truth about daygame and teaching students. I know, i’m a dating coach. But universally this seems to be the ratio. It is sad. Never ever, give up. A lot of people are right at the edge of success and they quit.

Some people fears success. The succeed at getting their first date, or pull. They bow out of game. I am not sure why. They get hardcase about it too. Caught up in life. It is like weight lifting. They get pumped for it. Now they have a coach. But their arms are sore and they don’t like it. They get results, or bigger muscles. But they feel it isn’t genuine or they didn’t get it themselves. Or if they didn’t get the muscles, they quit before they were about to make big gains.

PUAs are not normal people. They do burn out of course, but they never quit. Once they made it past the 6 month mark, they are in it for life. My best advice is game is the hardest thing in the world. But the most rewarding when you improve. Get results. Do you think you can play an instrument in such a short time? Or play in a band? Nope, it takes time. Same with daygame. Yes there are those who doesn’t improve, stubborn people who doesn’t work on their body and their game, or lifestyle, fashion. My point was don’t quit no matter how much it hurts. Maybe you didn’t fail enough to learn from your mistakes. But I can help you save time from your learning curve.

Solution. Learn how to put up with game for 6 months in a row. That is the magic number. Who cares how much it hurts. The fact students are pulling on the first class and getting dates. Normally in natural and direct schools, it would take longer to succeed. Maybe 3 months to get a date, 6 months to pull or longer. Or not at all. Learn how not to let early success bother you. Learn to be not stubborn.

I had an issue before where my neck hunches forward in daygame. While it is fine, I can still use my verbal skills. Women can detect your vibe subconsciously or your value. I won’t give you a solution here on how to fix every piece. I would identify what is usually wrong with myself and my students.

The neck. Noticed how sometime the neck is severely hunched forward. How do you fix it? I always imagine a neck brace. Like after a car accident. It forces your neck in place. Oh I gave you one solution. But the neck seems to be a big issue for a lot of my students.

The chest. You probably heard advice like puff your chest out as if a hook is pulling your sternum out. But in reality, you try it, it looks too try hard. Also, it goes back to its original place. So it looks unconfident again. Or you hear you are supposed to pull up your spine up to the ceiling like a string. But everything else is unaligned.

The arms keeps pointing forward like an ape for your forearms. No matter what you do, it just points forward. That is because the upper shoulder is in the wrong spot. Your elbows and wrist being so forward will always betray your vibe or value. She will see though your incongruence.

The lower knees. They keep pointing forward. Now your entire hip is forward and out of alignment because you put your hands in your pockets. But if you were lined up to a wall. Your knees won’t touch. So your lower back won’t touch either due to your hips. Your head wouldn’t touch the wall because you hunch.

Your feet are so close together. It looks very low value and weak. I’m not saying you need to put your feet super far apart.

The solution. Get a friend to take a picture of yourself doing daygame. Or yourself talking to the wall saying the stuff you would in daygame. When you see a video or picture, you realized how bad your posture is. I can fix it. I have a 5 point system that fixes all the issues without making it look unnatural. It might feel unnatural, for example for pretending to have a neck brace. Or a metal rod between your feet. So they never touch together. So your feet are always apart.