Author: vancouverdaygame

I’m going to claim I’m the first on who ever used inner game in the field. I pump my students state up, with affirmations with total conviction. You can’t just half ass it and think your brain is going to absorb it. You would reinforce that uncertainty, or half believe and reinforce how you don’t believe in it. I focus on specifics, of what each student feels. Some feels they don’t have value or anything to offer. So an affirmation would be, ” I am the best, I am a high value person.” Others who cares what others thinks would say, ” I don’t care what others thinks. I only care what I think.” What happens afterwards when they practically lie to themselves was they create blind spots. Their belief system was temporary hijacked by this. They walk in with total confidence. But confidence isn’t enough. Competence is even more important. Regardless, I’m the first to teach this method so I’m claiming it here. Also, you can integrated it into your life and do this at the gym for every rep. It is powerful and really reinforces it, since you are stressing the muscles and saying the affirmation with pure conviction. Inner game is just as important as outer game. I find a lot of the students who only focus on outer game. Their inner world, insecurities, limiting beliefs starts to show up to shatter their mind. It is like making money or a lot of wealth. But not having the right mindset to keep the wealth. The lack of entitlement for it. You begin to squander that wealth and go broke.

Limiting beliefs. Lets say a 5’5 student has a limiting belief that his height works against him. I would say according to the attraction switches, it might very well have. But it is better to not hold onto those kinds of beliefs. But to counter them because it doesn’t help. You would create a frame that height doesn’t matter. I have dated girls much taller than me. I would say a fifth are taller than me from the girls I have dated. So, it doesn’t really matter. I am so entitled and believe in my frame I can convert taller girls. Create blind spots. With limiting beliefs, it is the first thing most students say their accent hinders them, or height, race ect. Yes it does, but only a bit. Your vibe is more important.  If you were short, I would say bulk up your muscles and compensate. While these things do matter, you would be surprised a lot of these things doesn’t matter as much as you think. Just don’t think it completely 100% hinders you. It only hinders you a bit. Watch out for those who says looks don’t matter. The guys who are tall, has big muscles. They would deny their privileges helps them. Yes you would see most dating coaches fits into this category and it is no accident. If you look at most of the Asian daygame dating coaches, the majority all looks like a tall strong typecast. They have this magical thinking it is all game. Not they themselves are already an attractive man with qualities women are looking for, or preselected. Yes they don’t matter as much as you think. Race doesn’t even matter as long as you aren’t a negative stereotype and have enough protector status, preselection. Preselection, you think air-dried puffy Asian hair is helping you or hurting you? Get some pomade with a western haircut. You can affect preselection. I’m not going to lie, you can be stereotyped in the first ten seconds of an approach or even before it. So why not stack the odds in your favor instead of making it harder on yourself. Or they say looks, money status (LMS) doesn’t help. I don’t know what snake oil they are selling you. But that LMS only opens the doors. Flexing your muscles won’t get you anything. You have to actually use game or communication skills to close the deal. Having LMS isn’t enough.

False propaganda. The worst PUAs are those who regurgitate saying dude, looks don’t matter. So they use that as an excuse it is all game. That they can have messy hair. Hand me down looking clothing that looks like shit. Not work out, be skinny without anything going for them. These kinds of guys are making it harder for themselves for no reason at all. Now they get rejected a million times. I saw this happen before actually. It is so easily correctable. Sometimes you can have limiting beliefs from other dating coaches which deters you from results. Like looks don’t matter. You don’t need to learn text game, it is point A to point B. While they are super tall and flex their muscles. Or be direct with your intent from the beginning. While she rejects you based on your physical appearance because you haven’t demonstrated your personality at all. These lies doesn’t benefit you. It was always told to you from taller stronger, whiter dating coaches. It only makes other dating coaches more rich. It is really about marketing. If you believed them and got confused, you actually deserved the results you are not getting. I teach a system where you can bypass the initial auto rejection from direct game.

I’m shorter than most Asian daygame coaches in the world. I have filtered all they systems and field tested them. Most doesn’t work for me. Whatever works for me, already works way better with those with higher LMS. That is the main reason my students pulls. Or has a  higher rate than most dating coaches. I don’t have many advantages and it is mostly purely through game. Look forward to training you.

-GD

You will only be placed in one of three categories by women. Or you may change from one to another.

Lover, the one percent. You have replication value vs survival value. You might not be rich, but she sees you as sexually attractive. She would keep you as a fuck buddy as they call it. Your relationship is entirely sexual. Should you try to change it to romantic, boyfriend/girlfriend, you will lose her if she isn’t on the same page. Very few people fit into this category. It takes a certain seduction based daygame style and pre-selected look to make it work. Working out, being tall and muscular helps. If are short, you better compensate with more muscles. I rarely find people in this category is usually short. It really depends a lot of the pre-selected by other women and protector status. You either try to convey these manly qualities with game. Or you already are that kind of person. If you want to be put into this category, try to have sex during the first or second date to set the frame. Lets be honest, women and men likes sex. But women doesn’t always show it because that isn’t socially acceptable. But if she finds the right guy, she wouldn’t mind. In evolutionary psychology, a guy who has a lot of sex with a lot of partners would give women attractive children. Even at the risk he won’t make a good father and won’t stay. It helps future generations with good-looking genes.

Boyfriend provider beta male. You would be placed into this category if you aren’t a lover. But you have survival value and material resource. You make a good boyfriend rather than a lover. Since she doesn’t want to lose you, sleeping with you too fast. She wants to make you a boyfriend instead. Women push things back and eventually tries to turn you into a boyfriend. Even if you start out in the lover category. They have no immediate need for sex like guys. They are willing to push it back. You will be in this category if you have sex during 3-5 dates.

Friendzoned. If you dated a women who doesn’t move things forward in the relationship, but you don’t escalate. Or she isn’t willing to move forward and is a time waster, then you will be friendzoned. Sometimes women would go out with you on a date to make a new friend. Women are very selfish because having more friends means having a mini relationship without sex. Guy friends to them means less drama. You will spend countless hours of wasted time while she would have orbiters. There would be many guys trying to get her attention and she often picks the tallest guy with protector status in her social circle as a boyfriend anyways. Girls often thinks guys likes them for their personality and guys would want to spend time with them because of it. But in reality, you can’t fuck a personality.

Sometimes Asian guys who are tall gets to be a boyfriend of white girls. But this is a rare occurrence. I would recommend you don’t stay in the friendzone. The only way I would even recommend a female friend is to get over being phases by women. But only if she is beautiful. Or maybe she would make a good wing girl in a club. Otherwise, don’t bother. The best way out of the friendzone is never being there in the first place. My lifestyle won’t allow it. I go out, daygame and date very often. I don’t have time for female friends. Also, being a shorter skinny Asian guy can make you risk being put into the friendzone if you are Asian. I see no reason why you shouldn’t work out just to stay out of this category and move yourself towards the lover category.

This is why Asians or East Indian negative sterotype guys keeps getting friendzoned. It simply doesn’t work. You get auto rejected. That is why our system has a romantic/sexual connection ratio. By balancing the right ratio, you can hit on the friend category by connecting during the escalation phase. You can hit on the right ratio of boyfriend provider and the lover zone. Some girls might want quick sex and adjusting the ratio into more sexual than romantic might be smarter for a same day lay. Selling romance will get you auto rejected.