Author: vancouverdaygame

One of the things that frustrates me as a daygame coach with 542 laid/pull testimonials is when students make excuses and shifts blame onto others.

Hell they would even shift blame onto me

When they do that, they won’t change at all or improve.

They pulled the handbrakes unconciously

we call these people.. sociopaths

cause they can never be wrong in their own mind

they have a win at all cost mentality

even if their genes isn’t fully expressed yet…

they still retain some of that genetic programming.

In this article I’ll give you some advice on what to do if you feel like you have a bad attitude about something.

Don’t shift blame in daygame, take extreme ownership

So many guys who are not experienced with the daygame have no idea what they are doing wrong.

They feel so dumb and so ashamed because they are having such bad results.

Instead of admitting their mistakes and learning from them,

they pretend that everything is fine and they think it will magically fix itself.

That is the number one reason why guys fail in daygame.

They are making excuses and blaming other people,

instead of taking ownership of their actions and trying to fix the problems themselves.

So, if you are going to do this right,

you’re going to have to be honest and admit your mistakes.

You are not going to succeed with daygame by being a liar, a cheater, and a douchebag.

I tell you, your exact mistakes

instead of shifting blame cause you are incompetent, own up to it..

Making excuses doesn’t get you better in daygame

One of the first things you should do after a bad pickup is ask yourself why you did what you did.

Lets say if you were freezing up

Most guys make excuses because they are too afraid to look in the mirror.

They have bad habits.

Even mental trauma

Instead of trying to fix the habits,

most guys try to blame the other girl for making them do something that they didn’t even want to do.

That’s the worst thing you can do.

The first thing you should do when you make an excuse is own up to your actions.

I tell you what your mistakes are…

you have to accept it and fix it

Most likely I am always right.

Habits, not tactics for daygame. You need social skills, not game tactics.

Day game is the art of getting laid through the power of social interaction.

It is not creepy game tactics,

nor is it a set of game tactics for autistic fucks

It is about being good with people and making good connections with them.

So yes, social skills matter.

So does social calibrations.

It all matters.

SOLUTION…

When you are having a bad daygame session and your approach is not working,

don’t come up with some excuse for why you didn’t work.

A good rule of thumb for day game is that you will get what you put into it if you actually follow my instructions

some people are more teachable

some are more changeable.

For example for me in marketing, i’m extremely teachable… but not as changable.

you have to figure out which one you struggle with

Once you transform yourself to my training

for social calibrations, social skills…

then you almost just receive that lay

you don’t chase it but receive it.

-John Elite

THE PAST DOESN’T EQUAL THE FUTURE. PAST REJECTIONS

YOUR RSD TRAINING THAT GOT YOU REJECTED DOESN’T MEAN IT WOULD HAPPEN WITH MY TRAINING

Your RSD training does not mean anything.

Just because you got rejected before you were poorly trained.

Now you have bad habits.

With that has nothing to do with me.

You must learn to let go of the past.

The past does not equal the future.

MENTAL TRAUMA CAN BE FIXED, YOU CAN EXTRACT IT OUT OF YOUR MIND WITH MY MENTAL TRAUMA CURE PROGRAM

With the mental trauma cure program,

you can extract out your fears.

Every time you go through post traumatic stress…

It starts to engrave the fear into your mind.

So when I handled the stress in your mind.

I released the electrical charge from it.

When that happens, it goes all the way from.10 out of 10, down to 987 and down to zero.

THE ACTIVATING EVENT, THE BADLY FORMED BELIEFS AND CONSEQUENCES TO YOUR LIFE CAN BE FIXED.

That is the secret.

It is to figure out what the activating event was.

Because after the activating event your brain automatically creates new beliefs that are not empowering.

Then afterwards, those beliefs will change your consequences.

Literally cockblocking you from approaching.

This self-sabotaging process can be activated by others.

Or event.

Hence the name activating events.

YOU ARE THE 2.0 VERSION OF YOURSELF NOW WHEN TRAINED IN KAIZEN

THE OLD PROGRAM IS JUST OLD, TIME TO UPDATE IT

Lots of people needs to let go of their old RSD programming.

That’s the secret to life is to learn how to delete old programming.

You need to empty your cup so you can gain totality as what Bruce Lee said.

If you can empty your cup and start all over, this is a superpower.

This is one of those problems that I have had since I went through every daygame system in the entire world.

I discarded 99 per cent of every single system.

And kept 1%.

However, the big problem with that was I have a lot of bad habits.

Then you have bad habits when you choose the wrong coaches,

especially tall London daygame coaches.

Or some other tall white rectangular draw line dating coach with zero lay testimonials or three.

None of them were even Asian or Indian for the student results

Then of course, you will have bad habits.

It is your fault for being a sheep worshipping like a stupid fucking idiot.

YOU MIGHT OF HAD A LOT OF ANGER AND FEAR BEFORE

Also, it is very normal to experience fear or anger before when you go through these traumatic events.

This is how your brain protects you because it files the memory and emotions for a later time.

Some people are not prone to Post Traumatic stress disorder.

Some people have no emotions or feelings.

When I say feelings, people have feelings.

When there are sociopaths…

My feelings is not the same thing as emotions.

Emotions are identifiable,

but feelings are not.

For example, if you had the feeling of putting your hand on the stove, it will hurt.

That is not too different than when you feel triggered or offended because of your low self esteem and high ego.

That is exactly the same type of triggered feeling.

As putting your hand on the stove.

An involuntary reflex.

So the more intense your feelings or emotions are, the more post-traumatic stress you have when you file it in your brain.

Emotions are like happy sad, scared, surprised, empathethic

like the 20 different types of icecream…

all different flavors

but sociopathic or psychopathic students feels none of those things

THE STUDENT IS APPROACHING NOW ALL FRESH. HE WENT THROUGH HIS PROGRESSIVE DESENSITIZATION EXERCISES EASILY. HE IS READY TO APPROACH.

SOME PEOPLE GET THIS FASTER THAN OTHERS.

That’s right, some of my students do not experience any sort of approach anxiety whatsoever.

However, some of the students, they feel it very intensely.

Some of the students do not have approach anxiety,

but they have approached resistance.

It almost feels like they’re walking in slow motion towards her,

as if they’re in a big swimming pool of jello.

Everything feels slower and they want to approach but their body physically can’t.

FOR SOME PEOPLE ITS JUST A BIT OF MENTAL TRAUMA

For some people, getting rid of their mental trauma is enough to get them approaching.

They don’t need to do any approach anxiety exercises.

FOR OTHERS IT IS APPROACH ANXIETY, APPROACH RESISTANCE TOO.

If you have both approaching anxiety and approach resistance,

there might be some mental trauma.

Also, there might be a super fear.

What is a super fear?

It is when you have a life and death fear.

Then your body shuts down whenever you’re in that state.

For example, in the Navy seals…

They put people underwater with their hands tied behind their back.

They have to jump up and down just to get more oxygen.

But at some point it triggers a super fear.

When you nearly run out of oxygen

One of my students in three months to proficiency got laid.In two weeks.

But he was so fearful that he was going to get in trouble and get deported for cold approaching.

I helped him through that fear, telling him nothing bad will happen to him and he was able to do it.

Now he has a fuck buddy who’s a white girl.

All worth it for his training.

But so far, he did not use the mental trauma cure program yet of his 3MP package.

MENTAL TRAUMA CURE. ARE YOU RIGHT FOR THAT PROGRAM?

Maybe you feel mentally stuck right now.

And you have so much mental trauma from all the mental and physical abuse that you’ve experienced from your family and friends.

Maybe your friends criticized you and bullied you.

Maybe you’ve been through way too many bad events in your life.

Or you’ve been through too many rejections.

This is the right program for you.

I have raised a price, for what it is really worth.

I’m undercharging

But you should consult with me to see if it’s right for you.

Why be stuck all the time for all these years?

When there is a cure.

Time is money

-John Elite