Why You Shouldn’t Make Excuses in Daygame or Shift Blame. But Own Up To Your Own Mistakes

One of the things that frustrates me as a daygame coach with 542 laid/pull testimonials is when students make excuses and shifts blame onto others.

Hell they would even shift blame onto me

When they do that, they won’t change at all or improve.

They pulled the handbrakes unconciously

we call these people.. sociopaths

cause they can never be wrong in their own mind

they have a win at all cost mentality

even if their genes isn’t fully expressed yet…

they still retain some of that genetic programming.

In this article I’ll give you some advice on what to do if you feel like you have a bad attitude about something.

Don’t shift blame in daygame, take extreme ownership

So many guys who are not experienced with the daygame have no idea what they are doing wrong.

They feel so dumb and so ashamed because they are having such bad results.

Instead of admitting their mistakes and learning from them,

they pretend that everything is fine and they think it will magically fix itself.

That is the number one reason why guys fail in daygame.

They are making excuses and blaming other people,

instead of taking ownership of their actions and trying to fix the problems themselves.

So, if you are going to do this right,

you’re going to have to be honest and admit your mistakes.

You are not going to succeed with daygame by being a liar, a cheater, and a douchebag.

I tell you, your exact mistakes

instead of shifting blame cause you are incompetent, own up to it..

Making excuses doesn’t get you better in daygame

One of the first things you should do after a bad pickup is ask yourself why you did what you did.

Lets say if you were freezing up

Most guys make excuses because they are too afraid to look in the mirror.

They have bad habits.

Even mental trauma

Instead of trying to fix the habits,

most guys try to blame the other girl for making them do something that they didn’t even want to do.

That’s the worst thing you can do.

The first thing you should do when you make an excuse is own up to your actions.

I tell you what your mistakes are…

you have to accept it and fix it

Most likely I am always right.

Habits, not tactics for daygame. You need social skills, not game tactics.

Day game is the art of getting laid through the power of social interaction.

It is not creepy game tactics,

nor is it a set of game tactics for autistic fucks

It is about being good with people and making good connections with them.

So yes, social skills matter.

So does social calibrations.

It all matters.


When you are having a bad daygame session and your approach is not working,

don’t come up with some excuse for why you didn’t work.

A good rule of thumb for day game is that you will get what you put into it if you actually follow my instructions

some people are more teachable

some are more changeable.

For example for me in marketing, i’m extremely teachable… but not as changable.

you have to figure out which one you struggle with

Once you transform yourself to my training

for social calibrations, social skills…

then you almost just receive that lay

you don’t chase it but receive it.

-John Elite

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: