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The Australian Rejection and the Question Everyone’s Asking
Hey, did you know that most Indian guys doing daygame in the West think they’re getting rejected because of racism?
But what if it’s actually xenophobia?
Keep watching and I’ll explain the difference.
Not because they’re Indian.
Because of how they show up.
And I know, I know, you’re like, John, what do you mean?
So there are a lot of Indian dating coaches out there right now, and some of them keep putting out videos asking if Indian guys assimilating in the West will stop Indian hate.
Will it?
Short answer, no.
But that’s not the question you should be asking, and I’ll explain why in a second.
Let me tell you about this student from Australia.
Curly hair, pink work shirt, unshaved beard.
He’s out there approaching women and they’re telling him “get away from me.”
Straight up.
Get away from me.
Then we dressed him like my other students, and he couldn’t get rejected.
I’m not joking.
Hard to believe, but I saw it with my own eyes.
So I promise you, in this video I’m going to explain why these other Indian coaches are half right, and why that half-right advice keeps you broke and not laid.
But first, what they get right.
They’re Right About Racism, Wrong About What You Want
Okay, so a lot of these Indian dating coaches say assimilation won’t stop Indian hate.
In my opinion, they’re right.
Putting on a blazer isn’t going to fix racism.
Nothing in your closet is going to touch that.
But here’s the big idea.
There are two different things people mix up.
One is structural racism, the system stuff, and clothes won’t touch it.
The other is xenophobia, which is just fear of what looks foreign.
And presentation can bypass that, because a woman on the street makes her call in two seconds, before you open your mouth.
And by the way, assimilating doesn’t mean you have low izzat.
I’ll explain that later in this video, so keep watching.
You’re not here to stop hate.
You’re here to get laid.
Two different jobs, and you keep mixing them up.
That’s why you’re stuck.
Do not fight a culture war.
Get laid through daygame.
Say it with me, don’t fight a culture war, get laid through daygame.
You can care about the big stuff on your own time, but a woman walking past you in daylight doesn’t owe you a debate about history.
Now, I’m not Indian, okay?
But my Indian students’ results earned my respect, every single time.
So this is tough love, and I’m saying it because I want you to win.
Don’t clip it out of context.
So what’s the real foundation here?
Let’s get into it.
Social Dynamics, Status, and Husband Material
So the first secret is you don’t need the political fight.
You need to read social dynamics.
And the big idea here is that status is just how a stranger reads you in two seconds.
That’s it.
This is important because most guys never got the manual on how this works, so they walk around sending signals they don’t even know about.
Let me give you a rough chart, and this is a coaching metaphor, not some measured rank, okay?
Perceived natural status for an Indian-washed guy, call it a 2 out of 10.
Whitewashed, call it a 4 out of 10.
Same guy.
Same brain.
Different package.
Now what’s whitewashed?
And no, it’s not what those other coaches keep making it sound like.
It’s the full outfit.
Blazer, shirt, pants, shoes.
Same haircut.
Pomade, not coconut oil.
And you use it like a ninja, for social stealth.
You slip past the xenophobia filter and she never even registers it.
The second secret is husband material.
Women naturally want marriage and kids, right?
So you present as husband material even if you don’t want it.
You give her what she wants, and you get laid faster through daygame.
Does that make sense?
And listen, you start as fuck buddies first.
If you want a relationship later, you sleep with her more per week until she’s the one asking to change the frame.
No romantic flirts.
Seriously.
None.
Now I know what you’re thinking.
Prove it.
Okay.
Over 700 laid and pulled testimonials.
More Indian men laid through daygame than any other coach, allegedly, in my opinion, and I know what I’m talking about.
Every Indian guy married to a white woman is assimilated, every single one.
And my Pakistani mentor?
Whitewashed husband material.
But as I was saying, you’re probably wondering how Indian men got stuck on the old advice in the first place.
Let’s talk about that.
How Indian Men Got Sold “Dominate, Don’t Assimilate”
So here’s the old advice, and you’ve heard it a thousand times from a bunch of different Indian dating coaches.
Stay Indian-washed.
Keep your pride.
Be yourself, and women will respect it.
And then what happens?
You walk up to a girl in daylight and she goes, “get away from me.”
That’s the respect.
That’s what your pride bought you.
Now look at the package, because the package was the problem.
Curly hair, big beard, a shirt that looks like it came from your uncle’s closet.
All of that plays right into the stereotypes she already has in her head.
So shave off the bhenchod beard.
I’m saying it with love, okay?
Shave it.
And let me clarify that word, because I know somebody’s going to clip it.
Bhenchod, when I use it, is Indian-to-Indian tough love only.
It describes guys who procrastinate, who waste time, who don’t follow instructions, who are cheap, who stonewall.
That’s the behavior I’m talking about.
Don’t clip it out of context.
I mean it.
Here’s what the old advice never told you.
Women go through a line.
First the tall white boyfriends.
Then the shorter guys.
Then, finally, they settle down.
That’s the line, and it takes years, and most of those years you’re not in it.
But husband material skips the whole line.
You don’t wait your turn, you show up already looking like the end of the line.
And I promise you, that’s not an accident.
Take my students.
Same haircut, same blazer, same products, every single one.
Deliberate.
Every single time.
I’m not letting a guy walk out the door with his own idea of style, because his own idea of style is what got him rejected before he got to me.
And that’s the point.
The old advice sounded proud, but pride doesn’t get you laid.
The package got you rejected, and nobody was brave enough to tell you.
Now, why would so many of them keep selling you that old advice?
Follow the money.
The $8,000 Ego Business
Boot camps in this world run $8,000 to $18,000, and mostly it’s $8,000 and up.
Check the advertised price yourself before you hang it on any one coach, okay?
There are so many Indian dating coaches now, and I’m not naming names.
Look at the pricing pages and do the math on your own.
Then there’s the ethnicity-loyalty pitch.
Buy from your own kind.
A guy who looks like you, who gets you, who’s one of us.
And in my opinion, that’s a nice way to charge Latin and European tour pricing to other Asian guys who just want a girlfriend.
You’re not buying a skill there.
You’re buying a feeling that somebody finally understands you.
And it works like a loop.
First they praise your pride, you feel great.
Then they poke your insecurity, you feel small.
Then they sell you the relief.
Praise, poke, sell.
Praise, poke, sell.
Every single time.
And a lot of this comes down to a mindset called Jugaad.
I’ll explain that in a second.
And a lot of this comes down to a mindset called Jugaad.
I’ll explain that in a second.
You come back for more because the pain never gets fixed, it just gets rented.
So let me ask you something.
If you’re already enough, exactly as you are, why are you paying thousands for a weekend?
What you need is a haircut and the ability to speak clearly with real social skills.
That’s it.
Now the crutches, and I’m not naming any coach here, and I’m not inventing evidence about anybody, okay?
But across a lot of these coaches, there are many crutches.
Alcohol is a big one, and they bring it right into the bedroom before the heavy bedroom escalation.
Pour her a few drinks, then push.
If your method only works when she’s drinking, that’s not a skill, that’s a chemical doing your job for you.
Take away the alcohol and the whole thing falls apart, because the guys never learned anything.
They just borrowed a drunk woman’s lowered guard.
And I’m not Indian, okay, but I understand the culture, so I know exactly what this is.
It’s jugaad.
Jugaad is the workaround, the life hack, the quick fix.
And at its best, it’s genius.
Somebody sticks a water pump on a bicycle to irrigate a field, that’s clever, I respect it.
But when you take that shortcut mindset and put it into daygame, it turns into cheating the process.
Get her drunk.
Push the bedroom escalation on a woman who’s barely thinking straight.
That’s not game, that’s jugaad.
You got the result without building one real skill, and a lot of other Indian dating coaches teach exactly that, allegedly, in my opinion.
Chalta hai, close enough, whatever works tonight.
No.
If she needs a drink to say yes, you didn’t earn the yes.
Does that make sense?
A skill works in daylight, on a quiet street, with a woman who’s stone cold sober and walking to her own meeting.
That’s why my system is built the other way.
No alcohol.
No romantic flirts.
Sober in daylight, with a woman who could say no at any second and sometimes does.
If it works there, it works anywhere, and you never need a crutch again.
So let me take a quick break and tell you something important.
Demographic shift
Okay, so let me tell you what’s changed, because the numbers changed.
There are way more Indian guys in the West now than there were years ago.
More students, more tech workers, more guys landing in cities where nobody looks like them.
And a lot of them are finally getting curious about daygame, which is great, right?
I love it.
But here’s the problem.
Most of them walk in carrying the old advice, so they’re showing up in bigger numbers with the same package that already failed.
Curly hair, same beard, same coconut oil.
A hundred guys doing the wrong thing doesn’t make it right.
It just means a hundred guys get told “get away from me” on the same street.
And the old-school way, where you just try to be the nice guy, where you wait and hope she picks you, that was built for a time when there were a handful of Indian guys in town.
Nobody was watching.
Nobody had a stereotype loaded.
Now there’s a picture in her head before you even say hello, and that picture is not doing you any favors.
So you got two choices.
Keep showing up in the old package and hope the numbers work for you.
Or change the one thing you control.
Why Indians targeted
Now, why do Indian guys get it harder on the street?
And I know what you’re thinking, John, are you saying it’s because we’re passive?
No.
I’m saying something way simpler, and way more useful.
The big idea here is that women react to what’s easy to read.
A guy who looks like the stereotype, talks like the stereotype, and rushes through his words like he’s apologizing for being there, gets filed in a box in two seconds.
And once you’re in the box, nothing you say matters.
It’s not personal.
It’s pattern recognition.
This is important because most guys think they’re being rejected for who they are.
They’re not.
They’re being rejected for what the package signals before they open their mouth.
Indian-washed outfit, nervous tonality, no space between the words.
That combo says low status, low confidence, and she doesn’t owe you a second look.
And here’s what I see over and over.
The guy gets rejected, and then he takes it as proof that everybody hates him.
So he stops approaching.
He goes home.
He watches another video from one of those coaches who tell him it’s all about racism and pride.
Then he’s back to square one, broke and not laid.
But as I was saying, you can change the signal.
Same guy, same brain, new package, cleaner voice.
The woman who said “get away from me” last month walks right past the new version of you and doesn’t even blink.
I’ve seen it.
Every single time.
So stop taking it personal.
It’s a system, and a system can be beaten.
Get Training
Okay, I’m going to take a quick break here, because I want you to hear this.
If you’re tired of recycled advice from guys who never did the work, listen up.
I have over 700 laid and pulled testimonials across all my students.
Not theory.
Real results, from real guys, in real daylight.
And I put everything into one package.
It’s called Elite Bundle Resurrections.
Body language, daily consulting, tonality.
All the pieces that fix the package, the voice, and the approach, in one place.
The link’s in the description.
I’ll give you the full breakdown at the end of this video, so stick around for that.
But back to the question.
So does assimilation help or not?
Let’s get into the real answer.
Demographics, Looking Different, and the Fear Trigger
So here’s their point, and I’ll be honest about it.
A lot of them say that as Indian numbers grow and the men look different, local fear can grow too.
Fair.
I’m not arguing with that.
A bigger crowd of anybody gets noticed more.
But here’s the part they skip.
Fear and xenophobia hit hardest in the two-second street read.
That’s the window.
That’s the only window you control, and it’s the only one that matters when you’re standing in front of a stranger in daylight.
So does assimilation work for getting laid?
Yes.
Does assimilation stop hate?
No.
Two different questions, two different answers.
Yes for getting laid, no for stopping hate.
Say it back to me.
Yes for the first one, no for the second one.
Now, tonality.
Whitewashed tonality.
And the real issue isn’t your accent, okay?
Everybody thinks it’s the accent.
It’s not.
It’s stuttering, rushing, and a low-confidence voice.
Fix those three and women don’t even realize you’re Indian, because they’re too busy reacting to a guy who sounds like he belongs in the conversation.
And why don’t the big numbers matter to you?
Because you’re not approaching a country.
You’re approaching one woman at a time.
One.
A woman walking to a coffee shop doesn’t know what the census says, and she doesn’t care.
So what about the hierarchy argument?
Because a lot of them push one.
Assimilation Doesn’t Move You Up, Presentation Moves You Over
Their line is that assimilation just makes you a useful servant.
It doesn’t move you up the ladder.
Okay.
Maybe on their ladder, in their videos, that’s true.
But the daygame hierarchy is a different thing, and you’re not climbing a white man’s ladder when you walk up to a girl on the sidewalk.
Nobody’s ranking you against the founding fathers.
She’s deciding if she wants to keep walking or stop and talk.
And remember the line we talked about, the boyfriend line?
Same thing here.
Asian and Indian men who present as husband material skip the tall white boyfriends, skip the shorter guys, skip the settling part, and land right at the end.
You’re not moving up.
You’re moving over.
Big difference.
So the whitewashed look is ninja stealth, like I said.
You dodge the xenophobia, and you keep your own goals.
Your goals stay your goals.
Nobody’s asking you to give up your family, your food, your holidays.
I’m asking you to change the thing a stranger sees in two seconds, so you actually get to talk to her.
Now here’s what a lot of guys miss.
She reads your non-verbal communication before your words even come out.
Body language.
Facial expressions.
How you stand, how you breathe, whether your eyes are darting around.
Those are your social calibrations, and they speak first.
Your words are the second message.
The first message is already sent.
And the real weakness isn’t your look.
Let’s talk about that.
Not Adapting Is the Real Weakness
Their claim is that over-adapting signals weakness.
And in my opinion, they’ve got it backwards.
Real weakness is knowing your presentation hurts you, knowing it, and doing nothing about it.
That’s the guy who gets “get away from me” five weeks in a row and still shows up in the same shirt with the same beard.
Now I know why you do it, and I want you to hear me say it, because I understand your mindset.
There’s a Hindi word, Izzat.
Status.
Honor.
Face.
And I get it, it’s deep in your culture.
And look, I respect Indian culture a lot.
My Indian students’ results speak for themselves.
This is tough love, not hate.
I’m telling you the truth because I want you to win.
These behaviors, the dominance mindset, the “I’m above this” attitude, they turn women off in the West.
That’s not insulting you, that’s respecting you enough to be honest.
But some of these other Indian dating coaches take that word and twist it into a dominance, win-at-all-cost mentality.
And it keeps you stuck.
Here’s how it works.
Izzat turns into “my status means I’m above certain tasks, and above the people who do them.”
Look at the trash thing.
A guy throws his garbage on the ground because cleaning up is beneath his izzat.
Somebody lower is supposed to do it.
Same guy talks down to the waiter, yells at the driver, treats the cleaner like dirt, because treating them like an equal would drop his izzat in front of the onlookers.
That’s not respect, that’s performing dominance.
And it’s rooted in old feudal and caste thinking, where the high people never touch the dirty work.
Even when nobody says the word caste, the entitlement is still sitting there.
So now apply that to your outfit.
Fix your hair, learn a new tonality, change the shirt, take instructions from a coach?
That feels beneath your izzat.
You’re too good to adapt.
Too proud to change the package.
Right?
And that’s exactly the trap, because it feels like strength and keeps you exactly where you are.
But as I was saying, this does nothing for you in the West with women.
Nothing.
A woman on the street doesn’t care about your izzat, your family name, or who you’re above.
She cares how you make her feel in the two seconds you’re standing in front of her.
That’s the whole game.
Dominance over a server doesn’t get you laid.
Dominance over her isn’t what she wants either.
She wants a guy who looks and sounds like he belongs in the conversation.
Does that make sense?
Your izzat isn’t protecting you.
Your izzat is keeping you single.
Burn it.
And that’s bhenchoding, again, as the meme.
Procrastinating.
Not following instructions.
Being cheap.
Stonewalling.
Every guy I’ve coached who stayed stuck was doing at least two of those.
Tough love, okay?
I’m saying it because I want you to win.
So you burn the boats.
No plan B.
No “maybe I’ll keep the beard just in case.”
No “let me try it my way first.”
That’s how you end up right back where you started.
You commit, you change the package, and you never look back.
And those boot camp coaches, a lot of them, will tell you it’s your pride talking.
They’ll say it’s your culture, your roots, your identity.
Stop worshipping them.
They’re not protecting you, they’re protecting the sale.
Your pride isn’t the problem.
The advice is.
So what actually works?
Here it is, step by step.
What Works: The System, Step by Step
Okay, step one is the outfit.
The full look, not half of it.
You put it on, you take a photo, and you compare that photo to the reference.
If it doesn’t match, it’s not done.
And then you test it in daylight on real women, not in your bedroom mirror, because the mirror lies to you and the street doesn’t.
Step two is the haircut.
You bring the reference photo to the barber.
Don’t say “just a trim,” because you’ll get the same cut you’ve had since high school.
Show the picture, point at it.
Then you learn the pomade routine at home, every morning, and you match the beard finish so it looks clean and cut, not wild.
If you skip the home routine, the haircut lasts one day and then you look like yourself again.
Step three is the tonality drill, and this is where most guys cheat.
First, audible volume.
She has to hear you without leaning in.
Second, less rushing.
Slow down, take your time, like you’re singing your words.
Here’s a fun one, British singers lose their accent when they sing.
Same guy, same mouth, and the accent just disappears.
So when you slow down and stretch your words a little, your voice gets smoother and the stuttering falls away.
And leave a gap after you finish a sentence, so she has room to answer.
Pick one habit per week.
One.
Don’t try to fix your whole voice in a weekend, because you’ll fix nothing and quit.
Step four is the social skills flow drill.
You say hello, you hold the conversation, and you keep it moving without forcing it.
And here’s a small thing that matters.
When she starts talking more than you, that’s your cue to flirt.
She’s investing, so you can play a little.
Before that, you’re just getting her warmed up.
Step five is the arrow science game, and it’s three steps.
First, you maneuver, you move the interaction somewhere better.
Second, you sexualize, you let her know you’re a man who’s attracted to her.
Third, you handle objections, and you loop that until she says okay.
Objection, answer, objection, answer, around and around until she gives you the yes.
And all of it, every bit, without a drop of alcohol.
Sober, in daylight, in the real world.
And if she says no?
You thank her and you walk on.
No chasing.
No arguing.
No “but wait, let me explain.”
A no is a no, and you leave with your head up.
That’s part of being husband material, by the way.
Guys who can’t take a no don’t look like husbands, they look like trouble.
So that’s the system.
Outfit, haircut, voice, flow, game.
Now here’s how you get all of it, without spending months guessing.
Elite Bundle Resurrections Full Breakdown
So let me say it one more time, blunt.
Assimilation will not stop Indian hate.
It will get you laid faster.
Two different jobs, and I’m only here to help with one of them.
Does that make sense?
Now here’s what’s inside the Elite Bundle Resurrections.
The first piece is Elite 30.
That’s body language.
How you stand, how you walk, what your face is doing when she looks at you.
Remember, she reads all of that before you say a word, so we fix it first.
The second piece is Elite Access.
That’s 15 minutes a day of consulting with me.
Real feedback, on your outfit photos and your voice recordings.
Not a pat on the back.
I tell you what’s wrong, you fix it the next day, and we do it again.
Every single day.
The third piece is Elite Tonality Mastery.
This is where we fix the voice.
The stuttering, the rushing, the low-confidence sound.
There’s a financing option available too, so don’t tell me you can’t afford it.
If you can afford a sixty dollar haircut and a blazer, you can start.
And I’m adding bonuses.
The Elite Playbook, and 10 Skypes.
Ten one-on-one calls where we go over your real approaches, your real mistakes, and what to change.
That’s not theory, that’s me looking at your game and telling you straight.
Now here’s the part I always say, and I mean it.
I honestly don’t know how much longer I’ll keep this available.
Prices will probably go up.
So click the link in the description and get it today while it’s still available.
Don’t wait until next month, because next month you’ll still be wearing the same shirt and getting the same “get away from me.”
Burn the boats.
No plan B.
No “I’ll think about it.”
You think about it for another year and it’s the same guy, same beard, same Friday night alone.
And do this today, right now, before you close this video.
Take your outfit photos.
Record your introduction, the way you’d say hello to a woman on the street.
Look at both.
Be honest.
That’s your starting line.
I’m always here to help.
I can’t wait to see you on the inside.
Have a great day, and binge watch more of my videos.
-John Elite
