What if I told you there’s a hidden scoreboard in daygame that determines whether you’ll succeed or fail before you even approach? I call it the 5 Mindsets, and after coaching for 13 years, I’ve discovered that guys who master these 5 specific mindsets consistently hit the score threshold required for guaranteed results. The first mindset alone – Belief – is so powerful that it transformed one of my Italian students from getting rejected repeatedly to consistently getting laid with women home who were objectively out of his league.” Whether you believe you can do it, or you believe you can’t… you are right.
The Five Mindsets for Daygame Success
Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right. The truth is, belief is the foundation of all success. Without belief, you’ll drag your feet, procrastinate, and resist change. But with belief, you’ll open the door to growth, transformation, and ultimately, success in daygame. If you don’t believe in yourself, you would turn MGTOW, men going their own way.
This is where the Five Mindsets come in. These mindsets are the key to raising your Skill Index and achieving the 20/35 score that can also predict results.
The Five Mindsets: Your Path to Transformation
1. Belief Is Everything
Belief is the foundation of all success. Without belief, you’ll procrastinate, resist change, and fail before you even begin. Women can sense your lack of belief in your vibe, tonality, body language, and words. This lack of congruence triggers their defenses, making it nearly impossible to connect with them on a meaningful level.
But when you believe in yourself, everything changes. Your vibe opens up, your tonality becomes confident and relaxed, and your body language exudes high status. Women pick up on this congruence and feel drawn to you. They see you as a man who knows his worth and isn’t afraid to go after what he wants.
Take the example of my 5’8 Italian student. Before working with me, he was stuck using outdated UMP techniques, which only got him women who were 4/10 in looks. Most men in his situation would settle for women rated 3/10 or worse, but his belief in my system—and in himself—changed everything.
Referred to me by a Chinese student, he trusted the process completely. That belief allowed him to level up his skills by practicing consistently every single week. The results? Out of eight lays, many were with stunners rated 9/10, with some at 8.5. He achieved these results in fewer than six approaches each time. Because he had been laid before, his belief in his ability to succeed made each new interaction easier and more natural.
Belief is the key to unlocking your potential. Without it, you’ll hold yourself back. But with it, you’ll open the door to consistent success with women you truly want.
2. Changeability
Changeability is the ability to adapt quickly to feedback and challenges. But here’s the truth: without belief, changeability is impossible.
When you believe in yourself, you stop dragging your feet and start embracing change as an opportunity to grow. You become willing to adapt, make adjustments, and improve with every interaction.
Unfortunately, I’ve had students who completely lacked changeability. Take, for example, a Black student who didn’t believe in himself at all. Week after week, he dragged his feet, thinking I’d tolerate his lack of effort. He resisted change at every turn, and as a result, there was no progress. Unteachable cases like this show no change whatsoever, and that’s not good.
On the other hand, look at the Gen Z Latino student I coached in New York. Initially, he struggled with grit and focus, but his resilience paid off. He committed to the process, practiced consistently, and even took supplements to improve his focus. Like a magnifying glass focusing sunlight, he directed all his energy toward improvement. His laser focus and new habits led to a same-day lay with a 7/10 woman.
This proves that even students from a generation known for lacking resilience can succeed when they commit to the process. Changeability, fueled by belief, is what separates those who thrive from those who fail.
3. Teachability
Teachability is the willingness to learn and follow instructions. Without it, you’ll never improve, no matter how good the system is.
Some people are simply not teachable. I’ve seen it time and again—students with “mental blinking.” These are the ones who, when given instructions, have their brains turn off repeatedly, like a light flickering on and off. This is especially common with students who have ADHD. They need to hear the instructions multiple times before they even begin to process them.
Mental blinking people live life like zombies, completely unaware of their own incompetence. They struggle to follow orders and often resist learning altogether. This is why most people never break out of the “peasant mindset.” They believe they know everything and refuse to open themselves up to new knowledge.
Teachability, however, is the key to success. Secret societies understand this, which is why they train their members to become teachable as they progress through various degrees of learning. The more teachable you are, the more you can achieve—whether it’s wealth, influence, or success with women.
If you want to succeed, you must humble yourself, trust the system, and commit to learning. Teachability is the gateway to transformation.
4. Skill Index
Confidence doesn’t come from faking it—it comes from competence. And competence is built through consistent practice.
Students must progress through four stages of learning:
- Unconscious incompetence: You don’t know what you’re doing wrong.
- Conscious incompetence: You become aware of your mistakes. This is where Elite Access is crucial to identifying and fixing errors.
- Conscious competence: You can execute skills correctly, but it takes effort.
- Unconscious competence: Skills become second nature, and results come effortlessly.
Even the worst cases can succeed with this system. Take one of my Latino students, for example. He was one of the hardest cases I’ve ever coached—slow to adapt and lacking natural ability. But he followed the steps, practiced consistently, and built his skills over time. While his skill index wasn’t exceptionally high, it was enough for him to get results. He eventually got married, made more money, and had a son.
This proves that anyone can succeed with my system, no matter how slow their progress might be. As long as you follow the steps, wear the right fashion, and put in the effort, you will get laid—even if you’re not a natural.
5. Manifestation Index
Thoughts and feelings equal manifestation. If your thoughts and feelings are messed up, your results will be delayed—but they will still come if you persist.
One student, a former ABCs of Low Self-Esteem client, struggled with depression and low self-esteem. His negative thoughts and feelings constantly held him back. But with my training, he managed to get laid twice with white women—both redheads. One was in her 20s, and the other was older.
This is significant because ABCs students rarely succeed with white women in daygame. His results prove that even with negative thoughts and feelings, you can still get laid if you trust the process and take action.
Manifestation isn’t just about visualization—it’s about pairing belief with consistent effort. As Dan Peña said, “Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.” Just because you haven’t seen results yet doesn’t mean they won’t happen. Trust the process, align your thoughts and actions, and success will follow.
The 20/35 System: Your Blueprint for Getting Results
Skillset without mindset would lead to upset.
But if you believe you can do it, or you believe you can’t… you are right.
Belief: The Core of Transformation
Belief is the engine that drives everything in daygame. Without it, you’ll second-guess yourself, hesitate to take action, and drag your feet through every challenge. But with belief, you’ll unlock your potential, commit to the process, and approach every situation with confidence.
How Belief Ties to the 20/35 System
- Looks (10 points):
Belief pushes you to upgrade your whitewashed fashion and grooming. Without belief, you’ll stick to outdated styles, convincing yourself it doesn’t matter. But when you believe in yourself, you’ll see fashion as a tool to elevate your perceived status, making you more attractive to women. - Money (5 points):
Belief motivates you to project financial stability through husband-material fashion. If you don’t believe in your ability to succeed, you’ll resist these changes, thinking they’re unnecessary. But with belief, you’ll embrace these upgrades, knowing they’ll raise your value. - Status (10 points):
Belief is what allows you to adapt to high-status environments. Without it, you’ll feel out of place and avoid these circles altogether. But when you believe in yourself, you’ll see yourself as someone who belongs, which naturally elevates your status. - Social Skills (2.5 points):
Belief gives you the confidence to practice the Social Skills Flow Drill consistently. Without belief, you’ll avoid social interactions out of fear of rejection. But with belief, you’ll embrace every opportunity to refine your communication skills. - Social Calibrations (2.5 points):
Belief helps you stay calm and composed, which is critical for nonverbal communication. Without it, your body language will betray your nerves, turning women off. But when you believe in yourself, your confidence will shine through in your posture, eye contact, and movements. - Emotional Control (2.5 points):
Belief is the key to mastering tonality and staying calm under pressure. Without belief, your tonality will sound rushed and stressed, making you come across as low status. But with belief, you’ll project calm, confident tonality that attracts women effortlessly. - Game (2.5 points):
Belief is what allows you to execute the A-R-R-O-W system with precision. Without it, you’ll hesitate, overthink, and fail to escalate. But with belief, you’ll approach every interaction with confidence, knowing the system works.
Belief and the Mindsets
- Belief Fuels Everything:
Without belief, none of the other mindsets—changeability, teachability, or emotional control—will work. Belief is what gives you the courage to embrace change, follow instructions, and stay consistent. - Changeability:
If you don’t believe in yourself, you’ll resist change and stick to old habits. But belief allows you to see change as an opportunity to grow, making you adaptable and resilient. - Teachability:
Belief makes you open to learning and following instructions. Without it, you’ll shut down and reject feedback, sabotaging your progress. But with belief, you’ll trust the system and commit to improving. - Emotional Control:
Belief is what keeps you calm and composed in high-pressure situations. Without it, your emotions will spiral out of control, affecting your tonality and vibe. But with belief, you’ll stay grounded and project confidence.
Belief and Long-Term Consistency
Belief is what drives long-term consistency, which is far more important than short-term intensity. The 30-day challenge and 21-day challenge are designed to build habits, but they only work if you believe in yourself enough to stick with them.
Think of it like planting a seed. Without belief, you’ll stop watering the seed, and it will never grow. But with belief, you’ll nurture it every day, allowing it to grow into something powerful and automatic.
Mindset Is the Iceberg Beneath the Surface
The 20/35 system is just the tip of the iceberg. The visible part is your looks, money, status, and skills. But beneath the surface lies the mindset—the belief, teachability, and resilience that make everything work. Without the iceberg’s foundation, the visible part collapses.
During tough times like inflation or economic stress, belief becomes even more critical. It’s what allows you to keep leveling up, even when external circumstances are challenging.
Why Other Coaches Fail You
Why Other Dating Coaches Fail You (Even If You Believe in Their Stuff)
Belief in yourself is essential, but belief in the wrong system will always lead to failure. Worshipping other dating coaches won’t get you results because most of them rely on optics, not real skills or proven systems. They dazzle you with staged photos, fake confidence, and crutches like alcohol or mass numbers game, but these are not transferable skills that lead to consistent results.
The Problem with Optics
Optics are designed to manipulate you into trusting these coaches. Here’s how they fool you:
- Recycled Testimonials: Testimonials that don’t reflect real, consistent results. Often, these are Tinder-based or staged interactions.
- Alcohol Crutches: Many coaches rely on alcohol to loosen up their students or women, which doesn’t teach you how to succeed sober.
- Mass Numbers Game: Instead of focusing on skill-building, they encourage you to spam approaches until something works.
- Staged Photos: Pictures with women that are often taken in controlled environments, like elevators, parties, or even through lead-generation platforms like Seeking Arrangements.
These optics create the illusion of success, but they don’t teach you how to go from opening to sex in a real, repeatable way.
The Halo Effect: Why You’re Fooled
The halo effect is when you see one positive trait—like a coach being tall, white, or confident—and assume they’re credible in every other area. This is a cognitive bias that many socially impaired individuals fall for.
If you lack social skills or awareness, you’re more likely to:
- Overlook red flags like fake testimonials or reliance on crutches.
- Assume credibility based on superficial traits like looks, height, or clout.
- Ignore the lack of proof showing real, consistent results from cold approach daygame.
This is why so many engineers or Asperger’s students are drawn to boot camps—they assume the coaches’ optics mean their system works, but they’re being misled.
Why Their Systems Don’t Work
These coaches don’t teach transferable skills. Even if they get results themselves (which is rare), they don’t know how to teach others to replicate those results.
Think of it like worshipping a basketball player. Just because someone can play doesn’t mean they can teach you how to play. Many of these coaches:
- Don’t approach anymore: They rely on staged photos or outdated stories.
- Use gimmicks: Like Muay Thai in Asian countries or lead generation tactics to create the illusion of success.
- Focus on marketing, not coaching: Their goal is to sell you boot camps, not to help you achieve long-term success.
The RSD Playbook: Good Marketing, Bad Coaching
RSD and similar groups are experts in public speaking and marketing. They know how to write speeches, run free tours, and manipulate you into thinking their boot camps are the solution. But their advice is designed to keep you stuck so you keep coming back for more.
They don’t teach you how to:
Succeed in real-world, sober daygame interactions.
Build long-term, repeatable skills.
Go from opening to sex without crutches.
Why My System Works (And Why You’re Ignoring 660 Laid and Pulled Testimonials)
Let’s be real here. My students got laid through daygame. Not through Tinder, not by relying on alcohol, not by spamming hundreds of approaches. They got laid through cold approach daygame, going from opening to sex. That’s the reality, and it’s backed by 660 laid and pulled testimonials.
Here’s the issue: I’ve been posting these testimonials, showing you the proof, and yet, many of you still choose to ignore them. I’ve recently shared over 56 laid and pulled testimonials, complete with lay pics and censored voice recordings, but that’s just scratching the surface. There are hundreds more that I haven’t even posted yet. So why are you still ignoring the proof?
Maybe it’s not about money. Maybe it’s something deeper. Maybe it’s mental blocks holding you back. There’s a good chance you’ve fallen into the MGTOW mindset—men going their own way—where you’ve given up on yourself and decided that daygame doesn’t work for you. Or maybe it’s low self-esteem. That’s what keeps you stuck. You start deluding yourself, half-assing your efforts, following the wrong advice, and eventually quitting altogether. These mental blocks are what stop you from taking action, even when the proof is right in front of you.
Another reason you might be ignoring the evidence is because of the halo effect. You see these other dating coaches who are tall, white, or good-looking, and you assume they must know what they’re doing. You think, “If they look the part, they must be credible.” But that’s just an illusion. Optics don’t matter if their students aren’t getting laid. And the truth is, their students aren’t. They’re not showing real daygame lay testimonials. They’re not proving that their systems work. They’re relying on Tinder screenshots, staged photos, and fake confidence to sell you a dream that doesn’t exist.
Let’s talk about these so-called coaches for a moment. Many of them are nothing more than global game platform scammers. They rely on optics to create the illusion of authority. They’ll post photos with women in elevators, at parties, or in controlled environments, but none of it translates to real daygame success. They’ll distract you with Tinder testimonials or positive YouTube comments, but they never show anything from opening to sex. That’s because they don’t have the skills to teach it. They rely on gimmicks, like alcohol or mass numbers game, to create the appearance of success, but it’s all smoke and mirrors.
Now let’s compare that to my system. My students show real lay pics after they get laid. These aren’t actors, AI-generated images, or paid testimonials. They’re real students who succeeded in daygame. No other coach in the industry has this level of proof because their students aren’t getting laid through daygame. My system is built on real skills that anyone can replicate, not on optics or gimmicks. Elite 30, for example, teaches students how to fix their body language, social skills, and emotional control—critical factors for daygame success. Elite Bundle resurrections combines my best courses, including Elite Tonality Mastery, which helped students get laid even during tough times like inflation. These programs are designed to work for everyone, from complete beginners to advanced students, and the proof is in the testimonials.
You’ve seen the evidence. My Jewish white student, for instance, went to a white dating coach and got zero lays. After switching to my system, he achieved twenty lays through daygame. That’s the difference between my system and theirs. My students don’t just improve or feel better about themselves—they get laid. That’s the only metric that matters.
But it’s not just about the skills. Skills without mindset won’t work. My students succeed because they believe in themselves, adapt to feedback, and stay consistent. That’s why the 30-day challenge and 21-day challenge are so effective. They build long-term habits that lead to consistent improvement and more lays.
The reality is, other coaches are failing you because they focus on optics over substance. They don’t teach transferable skills, and they don’t have real daygame lay testimonials to back up their claims. They rely on the halo effect to manipulate you into thinking they’re credible, but assumptions don’t lead to success. Daygame lay testimonials are the only proof that matters.
If you’re still worshipping these coaches, you’re acting like a sheep. You’re falling for the same traps that keep most men stuck. Tinder matches don’t count as lays. Alcohol doesn’t teach you daygame. Staged photos don’t prove anything. You need to stop assuming these coaches know what they’re doing just because they look good on camera. The only thing that matters is whether their students got laid for daygame.
The daygame industry is full of delusional, low self-esteem individuals who fall for optics instead of focusing on real skills. Society has become more narcissistic and woke, with people virtue-signaling instead of taking responsibility for their growth. Logic has gone out the window, and people are more focused on appearances than substance.
That’s why my system is so effective. It cuts through the noise, focusing on real skills and real results. My students don’t just learn—they get laid through daygame. That’s the bottom line.
Elite 30 + Elite Tonality Mastery: The New Opportunity
Elite 30 and Elite Tonality Mastery together are the ultimate opportunity for 2025, forming the foundation of Elite Bundle Resurrections. This isn’t just a claim—it’s already proven to work, and you don’t need to question whether it will work for you because it has consistently delivered results for students from all walks of life. Some of my best students have used these programs together and achieved incredible transformations.
Take, for example, the student with 15 lays, 5 bottles, 5 white girls, and 2 actresses. Not only did he achieve these results, but he also married one of the actresses. His success came from learning Elite Tonality Mastery through Elite Access and applying the principles consistently. Similarly, his friend, the 5’8 Italian student, followed the same system. While his results weren’t as extensive, he still achieved significant success and ended up with a fuck buddy he genuinely values and doesn’t want to replace. These stories prove that when you follow the system and put in the effort, you will see results.
Next, I’ll be sharing the story of a Jewish white student who achieved 20 lays during the inflation period and continued to succeed this year. These aren’t just isolated success stories; they’re proof that the combination of Elite 30 and Elite Tonality Mastery works across different types of students, regardless of their starting point. The key is consistency and compression. You must practice over and over again without taking more than two days off. You don’t need to believe in yourself at first; you just need to trust the system. The system is proven to work, and the results speak for themselves.
The difference between top students and bad students is simple: top students compress their learning. They practice consistently, often eight or nine times a week, tracking their progress like a punch card. Even students who practice only five times a week still get laid, but the bad students? They stop practicing entirely the moment they see a little progress. They run away from the process instead of leaning into it. Running away is the behavior of losers. Procrastinators are losers. People with outdated “Pentium 1” brains who refuse to adapt are losers. Unteachable cases are losers. But this system is a proven formula that works for everyone who puts in the effort.
In today’s climate, with inflation and economic pressure, it’s easy to get confused, brainwashed, or stuck in survival mode. The winner-loser effect is real. Winners keep moving forward, while losers spiral downward. If you want to avoid being affected by these external pressures, you need to follow the exact system laid out for you. It’s not a massive commitment—30 days for Elite 30, followed by 21 days for Elite Tonality Mastery. That’s just 51 days total, and it will go by faster than you think. Compare that to mass approaching for 51 days in a row and reinforcing bad habits. Instead, you can spend just 10 minutes a day on drills, compressing your learning and building lasting skills.
This is why you don’t need to worry about whether the system will work for you. It already works. The only thing you need to do is follow it. If you can’t believe in yourself yet, believe in the testimonials. They’re all real. There are students just like you, with the same problems, who have succeeded. There are shorter students than you. There are more Asian students, more Indian students, and more students who started off with worse odds than you. What’s your excuse?
Even if you’re a bad student, as long as you dress well, fix your hairstyle, and follow the system, you’ll likely end up with a lay anyway. Just look at the student who took three years to succeed. He still got married, procreated, and turned his life around. The system worked for him, and it will work for you too. The only way it won’t work is if you refuse to change. If you insist on sticking to outdated Asian-washed or Indian-washed fashion that turns women off, you’re sabotaging yourself. If you cling to negative stereotypes or worship other dating coaches, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
These other coaches don’t care about your success. Their strategies and training methods are designed to sell bootcamps, not to help you get laid. The more bootcamps they sell, the more money they make. Some of them are making six figures a month by clout gaming, standing next to women for optics, and stacking bootcamps to maximize profits. But optics don’t teach you how to get laid. They’re selling you a fantasy, not a proven system.
The Elite Bundle Resurrections, with Elite 30 and Elite Tonality Mastery, is different. It’s a proven, step-by-step roadmap that takes you from zombie to human to superhuman. You don’t need to worry about whether it will work. It already does. You just need to stop running away, stop procrastinating, and commit to the process. If you do, you’ll see the transformation for yourself.
Final Thoughts
Bruce Lee once said, “Not failure, but low aim is the crime. In great attempts, it is glorious even to fail.” And while that’s an inspiring sentiment, here’s the thing: with the right system, failure isn’t even on the table. When you follow a proven process, believe in yourself, and stay consistent, you won’t just attempt greatness—you’ll achieve it.
The truth is, everyone will eventually get laid if they stick to the system. It doesn’t matter if you’re Gen Z, Latino, Asian, Indian, or from any other background. The system doesn’t discriminate. It’s built to work for anyone who’s willing to put in the effort and follow the steps. This isn’t about luck or chance—it’s about a formula that’s been tested and proven time and time again.
But here’s what holds most people back: doubt. People doubt themselves, doubt the process, and let their insecurities or overthinking sabotage their progress. They procrastinate, they hesitate, and they convince themselves that they’re the exception—the one person who can’t succeed. But that’s a lie. The only thing standing between you and success is your mindset. If you start believing in your potential and trusting the system, you’ll see just how capable you are.
There’s a famous saying: “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.” That’s the power of belief. If you think you can succeed, you’ll take action, stay consistent, and push through challenges. If you think you can’t, you’ll give up before you even start. The choice is yours.
Think about it: how many times have you doubted yourself in the past? How many opportunities have you let slip away because you didn’t believe you were ready, or good enough, or capable? Now imagine if you had just taken action. Imagine if you had trusted the process and given yourself the chance to succeed. Where would you be today?
This is your chance to stop doubting and start doing. Stop holding yourself back with excuses and what-ifs. The system works. It’s been proven by 660 laid and pulled testimonials from students just like you. These aren’t people who had it easy. Many of them started with the same doubts, fears, and challenges you’re facing right now. But they followed the system, and they got laid.
The best part? You don’t need to reinvent the wheel. You don’t need to figure it all out on your own. The roadmap is already laid out for you. Elite 30 will give you the foundational skills you need to succeed in daygame. Elite Tonality Mastery will teach you how to control your tonality, project high status, and stay emotionally grounded. Together, they form the ultimate system—one that’s already helped students from all over the world achieve their goals.
This isn’t just about getting laid. It’s about transforming your mindset, breaking free from your limitations, and proving to yourself that you’re capable of more than you ever thought possible. It’s about taking control of your life and creating the future you want.
So here’s the question: are you ready to stop doubting and start believing? Are you ready to commit to the process and see what you’re truly capable of? Because if you are, this is your golden opportunity. The system is proven. The testimonials speak for themselves. All you have to do is take the first step.
Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right. So make the choice to believe in yourself. Make the choice to follow the system. Because with the right system, you don’t just attempt greatness—you achieve it. And when you do, you’ll look back and wonder why you ever doubted yourself in the first place.
Let’s get started. Elite Bundle Resurrections is waiting for you. This is your chance to transform your life. Don’t let it pass you by.
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-John Elite
World's BEST Daygame Coach with 672 Laid/Pull Testimonials. More Than Every Daygame Coach In The World Combined 