The 5 attraction switches and why Mystery had it right

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Everyone always has their own version of the attraction switches. Although I am not a Mystery fan. I do find his 5 attraction switches explains just about everything in terms of attraction in game. Everything is survival and replication value. If you want to be a boyfriend, have survival value. If you want to be that 1% that has been with a lot of women then be the replication value guy. You would often get a really huge list like don’t be needy with women. Or don’t be a try hard. The list goes on. But they are a derivative of preselection.

  1. Leader of men and the women would follow. I myself lead a crew of PUAS and mentor a lot of students. I’m a leader to a lot of people. I myself don’t hang around other crews or PUAs. In evolutionary psychology, it is good to be a leader of your tribe. You get all the women. While the beta male guys doesn’t. Although things have changed today.
  2. Protector of loved ones. Basically this means having a protector status. You can make your women feel safe. Being taller and stronger actually has this effect. Where I’m from, almost the majority of the couples the guy is tall. For her social circle, there are many guys oribiting her. She often would choose the tallest guy in her social circle every single time or the strongest, or both. This is why I recommend cold approach. I always recommend my Asian students get jacked or buffed for a reason.
  3. Preselected by other women. If women sees you with other women. Lets say you go to a club and have a lot of wing girls. Then it would make it easier for you to get more women. She would think, well if all these other women likes him, she might as well like him too. This happens from evolutionary psychology where the alpha male has all the women. Newer women would automatically like him.
  4. The ability to emote. This is the ability to switch vibes and show emotions. To connect with her. It isn’t enough to be strong, but you need to have a tender side too. Women in general thinks emotionally. If you can connect this way, create emotional impact, you would do much better with women. If you can’t even create attraction, or connect with women. Or seduce them, you would have very hard chances to get with them. Unless you are really preselected, strong, tall and good looking.
  5. Risk taker. Someone who takes risk is attractive.

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I have a lot of students. However for my Asian students who tends to be shorter or skinnier. With bad passive value or fashion sense and doesn’t fix their hair. Most Asian guys doesn’t actually have any of these characteristics. To an Asian women, they would be more preselected. His limited emotions would be adaquate for Asian women. But it wouldn’t be for white women. I would suggest, first of all get a look or makeover that shows preselection. Also, hit the gym. Learn how to emote, or have a good vibe. Most of their vibe is one of rapport seeking and comfort game. Paired with really bad attraction game or seduction. He doesn’t show any ability to take risk when he can’t escalate physically kino or emotionally flirt. Of course this can affect East Indian students and Persian students too. Who are also negative sterotypes.

Lots of the Asian dating coaches around tends to be really tall and strong, preselected by other women. It isn’t really game that they have. But they are just that attractive guy. They don’t have to convey it, they just are. They get compliance where shorter skinnier Asian guys doesn’t. They tell shorter Asian guys what to do without even being able to empathize with their struggle. It is LMS game or looks, money status game. They would say looks don’t matter. Regardless, for my job, I teach students how to use the five attraction switches in their favor. Not against them.

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Why she doesn’t text you back

I have field tested every possible scenario regarding whether or not a girl text you back. I have seen people who are tall that gets more text back. Perhaps due to the attraction switch of having protector status. I have seen people who are shorter that gets text back. Although it doesn’t happen as often as tall guys who are buffed to do attraction switches. I have seen guys who are tall, but not preselected by other women who doesn’t get texted back at all. I have heard a lot of theories. Like you aren’t building a connection well enough. Or you aren’t creating a lot of attraction. Even though people have done that well before, it didn’t amount to getting dates. They are stuck in the intermediate hell, where they have non stop flakes. Some people suggest you need to be more sexual. If you haven’t created seduction, she won’t come out. I have heard the vibe was wrong. Or you were too gamey. Or you aren’t on her level or scale of looks. She is on her period. Or she has a boyfriend but didn’t tell you. Or have a friends with benefits already. Or you are competing with her social circle. She has a checklist of things she wants in a guy. They are all in the right ballpark but none of these are the real answers.

Before we answer the question, we must state the problem and how it arise. The first thing is approach anxiety. The second issue is learning game or being too gamey. Third is being natural, while you aren’t preselected. You didn’t learn game tactics, but pretend to be natural when you aren’t naturally good looking.

Lets start with approach anxiety. You will go though many stages, like 1. fear 2. social 3. attraction 4. seduction 5. authentic. If you are still in the fear stage, it shows up in your game. You show a lower level of competence in-game. She can tell and while you are trying, she would give you a number. But never will text you back. Women are willing to give you a number even with a very low-level of attraction just to see how it goes. Also to get some validation.

Second issue is learning game. So you aren’t a natural, so you learn to be gamey. Every time you try too hard, being too manipulative and gamey, women can sense this. Since you didn’t focus on the social aspects of an interaction. But you started to learn how to build attraction and connection like most of the direct daygame systems out there. You already appear to be gamey and try hard. You also become that creepy weird PUA guy who depends on self amusement and being un-relatable.

Third issue. Natural game would be suitable for those who are tall, strong and preselected by other women. Or it is rejection hell. It is a game style used by those with natural advantages. Or LMS game, looks, money status game, leaning heavily on looks. Since you have no game tactics and you are supposed to depend on being preselected by other women. This is where tall handsome strong good looking guys thinks they have game or skill. In reality, it was because they were being an attractive man. Not conveying it though game. They just are attractive already.

The last one is, you have an angry depressed needy vibe.

What is the solution then? You have to pass two different test or filters. Would you ever talk to a friend like the way you talk to girls? Or your girlfriend? Would you ever put a friend who is a girl, on a pedestal, uptalk, rapport seek or even be overly gamey? Nope, not in a million years. You would tease your girlfriend, flirt and even have a connection with her though normal conversations. Of course you would. The solution is to use social skills and pepper with game tactics. Which means building attraction first teasing to rapport and seduction or escalation. It has to seem authentic and you can challenge, relate/knowledge, push-pull in-between, build a connection, escalate later. You never use that as a structure as you see in so many London systems. That has a high rate of rejection. You don’t see the footage of clips from their dates or pulls on YouTube. You don’t even know if they go on dates. That is the reason why naturals do so well. Naturals already had girlfriends and been on many dates.  They were socially calibrated early. PUAs learning daygame later in the life would have to learn things the hard way. This is why naturals are so calibrated socially with women. I’m not talking about those guys who are teaching a natural style. But being born one, getting results without even learning game. Learn how to be authentic, having a structure so you can have checkpoints. Like you have a quiver of arrows. You have a normal conversation and you choose when to fire attraction techniques, connection and seduction at the right times figuratively. You know where you are in the interaction. You will not only get more dates, you would fix most of the problems plaguing the PUA industry. Women would love it more because you are authentic. It builds a stronger connection. It creates a stronger attraction just being normal with some game tactics peppered in. For the vibe issue, work on inner game. You are coming across as a depressed, unhappy, needy person. Focus on being a positive fun happy person. Guys who gets laid a lot are often happy.

 

 

The importance of fashion for opening sets.

There is this whole idea that looks don’t matter. It is all about game. But if you are a colored person, fashion does matter more. If you are a white guy, you can get away with average looking fashion. But I have found that fashion matters if you are a colored guy. I taught some really good looking students before. One dressed like shit. When he improved his fashion, he dated a lot more. For another student, who was a model. One day he dressed un-relatable. Wearing short pants and a weird looking sweater. It really hurt his game because he kept getting auto rejected. Then the next day he wore a blazer and opened almost every set. He argued it didn’t matter, but then the results speaks for themselves. Lastly, another tall Asian student had this Asian air-dried puffy hair. His jeans were regular fit and his shirts were always plain. He kept getting rejected non stop. In fact, his sets never last more than 30 seconds to a minute. When I made him get a new haircut and a new set of outfits, he started to stay in set much longer. While having a nicer fashion doesn’t mean you would automatically get laid for it. You will open sets a lot better than without the fashion. Which you would be auto rejected every time. But don’t have nice fashion but un-retable fashion. You could come across as fobby (Fresh off boat) if you are Asian.

You have to do the math. For every ten sets, lets say you only last about a minute. You don’t really learn much because that is only ten minutes of reference experience. If you dressed better and each set lasted five minutes. You have over fifty minutes of reference experience. If it is ten sets a day, a week you are talking about 350 minutes a week. Close to six hours a week. This is better than just one minute sets, which brings you only an hour of reference experience for beginners.

She will decide when you text whether or not you are a lover, boyfriend provider or friendzoned loser by the way you dress. So choose wisely. I can help you with a make over that makes it easier to open sets. It is part of my class.

 

The 5 stages of Daygame. Why some people struggles more than others.

There are five tiers of daygame everyone has to go though. I learned about these through a London company. But it is accurate. 1. Getting over your fear. 2. Being social 3. Building attraction so you are not platonic. 4. Building seduction so your intentions are clear. 5. being authentic. I don’t mean natural. You can be authentic even having some sort of structure.

The first stage is getting over your crippling anxiety. Until you get that handled, you would always convey fear and it is unattractive to women. Imagine approaching with a fearful face. With my students, I identify these characteristics and help them to eliminate it. I would suggest to keep doing more and more daygame until your level of fear dissipates. If you are really bad at approaching, do this in a night club as an exercise. Or just do simple things like asking for the time and directions. Giving a compliment and leaving.

The second stage is social. I sometimes have students talks to women who aren’t as attractive. Since they want nothing from them, they can focus on building a social connection. It would be easier if they treated beautiful women the same way they treat unattractive women. The ability to hold a conversation is very important. If you get stuck at this stage, you would always be doing social circle game and stuck in the friendzone.

The third stage is attraction. Lots of my students are working on social skills. But they don’t build any attraction. They have a 20 minute conversation to nowhere. Then they get the number and wonder why it flaked. If you aren’t exciting or fun during the interaction. Why would she even want to go on a date with you?

The fourth stage is seduction. Lets say you are an attractive man already. You are tall, strong, you convey attractive qualities. But she doesn’t know what your intentions are. You given her a compliment, even though I don’t do direct daygame. You expect her to know what you are thinking. You want to go on a date, maybe possibly get intimate. But you didn’t even give a sexual compliment later on. You didn’t even kino, or touch her hand. You didn’t even give a sexual vibe. You are essentially an attractive guy who is asexual. Even worst if you aren’t attractive. Unless you were purposefully running indirect game.

The last stage is being authentic. The reason why natural game doesn’t work was, natural and direct game is used by those with natural advantages. They are often taller guys who are good looking. Structure interferes with their daygame. In reality, they had two attraction switches. Preselected by other women and protector of loved ones. They were playing game on an easier level due to having two attraction switches shorter guys doesn’t have. I’m not saying pretend to be natural and try to seek rapport. I am saying be authentic that the words you use are congruent and conveying what you want to express. Even if you had a structured approach. The structure has to sound authentic. They are merely just checkpoints you have to get to in the interaction. But it is though a very authentic connection.

By jumping to this stage at the very beginning, right to authentic. Then trying to figure out how to portray attraction and seduction without having any foundations of social skills. Also, not being a tall, good looking strong preselected stereotype. Getting auto rejected for a low value compliment like a beggar seeking rapport. I can see why people gets frustrated and confused by bad advice that isn’t relatable. If you want to learn to daygame as an average guy. Contact me. I have the answers to your problems. But you can’t skip stages unless you were born a natural.

 

My mission with this blog.

My mission in life is to help colored men like Asians, East Indians, negative stereotypes date white women, Latinas, Persians or whoever they like. But when we try to date white women, we are met with resistance. Not that we are trying to put certain women on the Pedastal. But most of my clients likes them. They are beautiful. But I like to see a more balanced world where everyone is equal. I’m trying to create equal opportunity in the dating world for everybody in Vancouver. Vs a world where the privileged thrives. I don’t like how Darwinism this dating world is. I want to give people the tools to date whoever they want. You wouldn’t believe what I been though and the struggles I had. The work, the research, the rejections, the failures to get to this level. It isn’t just about the tools, but the self improvement, transformation you would have in life. I have made the world a more equal and fairer place. I’m also here to improve as a dating coach and in pickup. I have learned every system out there. I have seen the dvds or read the material. I have field tested everything. Certain things doesn’t work for an average looking guy who is colored. I’m here to shed light on it and what you can do to get the results you want. I am not politically correct and I may offend you. I am blunt and I don’t sugar coat things.

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